Darksideblugrss Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 So I recently (a month or so) was dumped in a 2 1/2 year relationship in which my ex and I were cohabitating and sharing a lease on an apartment near my school. I moved on to the couch which was my futon so it folds out to a nice size bed but still no privacy. We have 7 more months on the lease and we were doing okay with living together very rarely seeing each other and only ever interacting when it was necessary. Until last night when at 4 a.m. she brought the new guy she was seeing to spend the night. they tried to sneak past me but I woke up and confronted them and they precede to tell me that I need to get over it and she has moved on and I can't control her. I'm just in utter shock that someone I still have strong feelings for and someone I used to love treating me so horribly.
geegirl Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 I can't imagine being in your situation. I'm so sorry that you have to endure this. Is there a way you can stay at a friends house, even if not full-time but sporadically so you at least get some peace of mind? Or can you just bunk with someone and pay them a minimal amount until you can move out? I really don't have any advice that will help you soothe your pain. I think it is very cruel and vicious of her to do that to you. It's one thing to end a relationship but it's another to then completely disregard your hurt feelings.
rhoda Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 It's probably not a good idea to continue living together since you so clearly still have feelings for her. The worst thing u could do to yourself is watch her move on with her life, start dating other people whilst you are secretly hoping she wakes up one day and realize she loves you. So break the lease talk to the leasing office they might let you. You guys might get back together down the way but not right now, I also think things will only get worse with time if she is starting to bring people home and knows you are there.
EgoJoe Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 (edited) How very insensitive and immature of them. Tell her that as long as you are on the lease you will exercise your right to choose who comes over and when. Simultaneously, why the **** are you on the couch when she dumped you? Man up and take some control. Pay to get off the damn lease already. Edited June 13, 2012 by EgoJoe
Chi townD Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 What a sl*t and B*TCH!!!!!! Dude, Any amount of money is worth getting out of that situation! Take out a damn load if you have to!!! And right before you leave take a piss right in the center of her bed and walk out the damn door!
KraftDinner Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Seriously, why are you the one on the couch? Man, she's cold, bringing a new guy home at that hour. Brrr...not nice! The sad thing though is there's really not much you can do.
D-Lish Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 You need to sit down with her like an adult and work out a way to change your lease. Ask her to find a new room mate, fight for the change necessary for you to move forward. Life is too short to wait on a couch until your lease is up while your ex parades men into your home.
writergal Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 You need to sit down with her like an adult and work out a way to change your lease. Ask her to find a new room mate, fight for the change necessary for you to move forward. Life is too short to wait on a couch until your lease is up while your ex parades men into your home. D-Lish is right. Life is too short to endure un-necessary torture when the solution is to find someone to take over your part of the lease. Go on Craigslist and advertise the 2-bedroom under the rooms/shared section, after you get your ex-girlfriend to agree. Of course approach it as "I'm moving out in a month so you'll need to find a sub-leaser." Did you both sign the lease or just one of you? Either way, you need a sub-leaser asap. One month gives you time to find a new roommate situation too.
Sugarkane Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Wow and I thought my ex was cruel! It amazes me how people can be so rude in these situations.
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