Char12 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 My first love came back into my life after 2 years after i asked if he'd like to catch up. He broke up with me out of nowhere the first time. When we met it was like we'd never been apart. He kissed me and i asked whether this was a one off or he wanted a relationship, knowing he'd be going back to uni for a while soon. He said he wanted to try, i said i needed to think. We continued to meet up, and i talked through issues we might face if we were to try again. He seemed all for it, he said he'd never really got over me and seeing me again made him realise what he was missing. A week later i decided i wanted a relationship too. For the next couple of months we saw each other almost everyday, and had an amazing time. He told me he loved me and after having sex he said he wanted to have kids with me one day. Nothing changed when he went to uni, he even mentioned getting a flat together when we left. Everything was perfect until i'd had a bad day (flunked an exam) and said i wished he was here and it was hard seeing other couples together, and that the long distance was hard. It was like a switch turned in him and it ended up with him breaking up with me, saying i was right, it was too difficult but he still loved me and was hoping we could try again one day. I hadn't wanted to break up with him, i wanted his reassurance more than anything. I left it until the following day, and wrote a message telling him i didn't want to break up and had had a bad day, and that he was going to see me in less than 2 weeks. He replied with excuses i'd never heard of.. saying it wasn't the same.. like "part time girlfriend, part time pen pal", he "was clouded by the sex and chemistry", he wasn't used to having a girlfriend again, and i'd "kept too much locked away" and he'd "only do this with someone he was 100% about.".. which seemed strange after everything he had been saying to me, and hurt because i was 100% committed to him. He also brought up some of the issues we'd talked about before the relationship, which then weren't a problem to him. I haven't replied mainly out of shock. Before that day he'd been making promises of a future and texting me sweet things in the middle of the night. A week later he messaged asking if i was okay and i still haven't said anything to him a week on. I've deleted him from facebook also as he seemed to be having the time of his life and i never existed and it all meant nothing. I'm very confused and hurt about the whole situation to be honest, i'd fallen in love with him all over again and now i feel stupid and left in the aftermath. Can anybody offer any advice? Thank you x
blotter Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 To me this looks like he was talking to other women at his UNI, probably more than just talking. And when you brought up the long distance stuff, you gave him the perfect excuse to drop you and play the field at his UNI.
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