quyster Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 My ex-girlfriend and me were together for 3 years, we broke up for 3 months, talking n dating back now for 1 month..... Things were pretty ugly after the break up, we argued and fought every chance we got.... We complaint and blamed each other for all the bad things that happened. We thought we couldn't stand each other. Then we both dated new people...... I thought we both moved on after a couples off weeks went by without any contact. One day, after 3 months broken up..... Out of the blue we talked again and found out that we still care and love each other so much. That we can not stand each other being with somebody else. We know in our heart that we love each other so much. Eventhough, we still bring up the past some time.... I know she's "the one" for me , and she thinks i'm "the one" for her... But.......... She said that she's not ready. It's not time yet for her. She needs to get all those ugly experience out of her mind to be in love with me again. To be committed to me and live out lives together. She wants to make sure this time is that last time that we ever need to get back. That we would be happily ever after this. Things would be perfect from after this on..... Now, she just go to work and go home... sometimes go out with her girlfriends...... just living her life for herself... I respect her decision... and i'm taking this very seriously.... I would do everything and anything for this to work. BUT..... I honestly dont know what is going on... between us... and in her mind. CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE TELL ME WHAT SHE'S THINKING AND WHAT'S HAPPENING. DOES THIS WORK OR SHE'S JUST CONFUSED..... AM I DOING THE RIGHT THING FOR GIVING HER TIME?
uriel Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 Yes, give her some time -- two or three months. Then, you should expect to start to talk more seriously about what happened and how to make this work again. Very likely, this is a test period by your girlfriend, to see whether you behave yourself. I don't know what her issues with her were, but that's what she's probably evaluating now. If she said you were too controlling, etc., she'll be looking for you to back off. If she said you were too thoughtless, you might try some flowers after a week or two, that kind of thing spaced out but sweet. -- uriel
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