rj2010 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 (edited) Where do I Start? I am 40 with a 5 year old son, and my girlfriend is 40 with two sons 9 and 6. We've been dating 16 months, and we were living together for 6 months through mid-May. We had been battling over many little things, but a hot button was her kids and watching them. My son lives with his Mom most of the time, and her kids live there 80% of the time. I told her I will help with pickups/dropoffs at school and watching the kids during her time at work or for emergencies, if need be, however, she decided to start taking a Zumba class a few nights during the week, with a few other times over to her girlfriends houses. As innocent as those were, she expected me to always be the one to watch the kids for those non-work things, and if I could not, I hear the riot act. It all came to a head one weekend when she was shopping with her friends for 3 hours later than she said, and the place I needed to go was closed when she got back. On that day, I was very clear about my position of pickups/dropoffs at school and watching the kids during her time at work or for emergencies, if need be...but for anything else, it was not fair to expect me to do it. A battle ensued, then a chill........and that Thursday after, a massive battle where she told me to move out......and to preserve my self-pride and not fall in line (spineless men are not attractive to women !), I packed up and moved back hom the next day. She came home as I was leaving....tears fell from her eyes....but I didn't see any sign or remorse. The next day she said she was wrong..... And I told her if she told me to come back, I'd meet her half way and do it. We are stuck there....she keeps going on and on about the kids and said she wants someone, "to share responsibilities whether its household or taking care of eachothers kiddies if the other is not around for whatever the reason, with out argument" If I said NEVER....I'd be wrong.... But there has to be boundaries I love her (crazy about her), she says she's in love with me...we have fun together, and we are still dating.... We talk moving in together, but NOT in the same small apartment which is in her parent's basement, which she desperately wants out of ! But every time I go to her apartment...it's so sad because I was erased from there... But the pics of me and my family I took down when I was leaving, she put back up, and still has all of our relationship pics and cutesy things up.....(So I'm there, but not "there", kind of??) She knows I want to come back....I didn't want to hide it... But we go around and around when we talk about it... I'm hurt and it's SO hard like this.... Corny...but I loved going to bed and waking up with her!! Can someone help me see the forest for the trees? Put it all behind me and be thankful ? If so, for what? Edited June 13, 2012 by rj2010
username70 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Where do I Start? I am 40 with a 5 year old son, and my girlfriend is 40 with two sons 9 and 6. We've been dating 16 months, and we were living together for 6 months through mid-May. We had been battling over many little things, but a hot button was her kids and watching them. My son lives with his Mom most of the time, and her kids live there 80% of the time. I told her I will help with pickups/dropoffs at school and watching the kids during her time at work or for emergencies, if need be, however, she decided to start taking a Zumba class a few nights during the week, with a few other times over to her girlfriends houses. As innocent as those were, she expected me to always be the one to watch the kids for those non-work things, and if I could not, I hear the riot act. It all came to a head one weekend when she was shopping with her friends for 3 hours later than she said, and the place I needed to go was closed when she got back. On that day, I was very clear about my position of pickups/dropoffs at school and watching the kids during her time at work or for emergencies, if need be...but for anything else, it was not fair to expect me to do it. A battle ensued, then a chill........and that Thursday after, a massive battle where she told me to move out......and to preserve my self-pride and not fall in line (spineless men are not attractive to women !), I packed up and moved back hom the next day. She came home as I was leaving....tears fell from her eyes....but I didn't see any sign or remorse. The next day she said she was wrong..... And I told her if she told me to come back, I'd meet her half way and do it. We are stuck there....she keeps going on and on about the kids and said she wants someone, "to share responsibilities whether its household or taking care of eachothers kiddies if the other is not around for whatever the reason, with out argument" If I said NEVER....I'd be wrong.... But there has to be boundaries I love her (crazy about her), she says she's in love with me...we have fun together, and we are still dating.... We talk moving in together, but NOT in the same small apartment which is in her parent's basement, which she desperately wants out of ! But every time I go to her apartment...it's so sad because I was erased from there... But the pics of me and my family I took down when I was leaving, she put back up, and still has all of our relationship pics and cutesy things up.....(So I'm there, but not "there", kind of??) She knows I want to come back....I didn't want to hide it... But we go around and around when we talk about it... I'm hurt and it's SO hard like this.... Corny...but I loved going to bed and waking up with her!! Can someone help me see the forest for the trees? Put it all behind me and be thankful ? If so, for what? Helping her with the kids is grea. Assuning ud do it is not. Especially for a fun/play date type thing. I mean not making money or something that helps house. She should have had gf babysitter or someone she knows alterate with kids--
Christine52 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Being a single mom is REALLY hard. SHE is tired, exhausted, and needs help. HOWEVER, You two are not married. Thus, she has no right to ask this from you. She needs to stop demanding these things from you. Once you are married, then you share the responsibilities 50/50.
Author rj2010 Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 Thanks All. The thing is that she keeps calling me and texting me and wants to see me, but I am standing firm on the fact that she could have handled it differently than kicking me out. Whats to stop her from doing it again in a new place? These are issues that we need to confront right back in the same apartment we were. The resentment building over her just cavalierly kicking me out is getting worse, and as oddball as this may sound: I love her too much to allow this resentment to build into hate over time.... She thinks I'm being stubborn, but it was ME that was uprooted, not her!!! So, that's my boundary....and I need to stand firm on it, or else I might as well put a "WELCOME" mat on my head and be a real doormat! I'd love to hear feedback on this. Thanks !!
curlygirl40 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Wow this is a sticky one, and I'm not even sure what to say, but here I am responding anyway. For the record, I do think she's wrong to expect so much out of you as far as watching her kids. I am a single mom, even though my kids are older, and I understand her needs to get out and blow off some steam. I also understand that if you are a couple, she is a package deal and her kids are part of that package. But I do think that she's taking advantage of the situation. I think it seems to make more sense for you two to work towards moving in together in a new place. A place that belongs to both of you. Both of you on the lease, both of you picked it out. A place where if you decide in the future to break up and move apart, that decision will be made kinda mutually. Not a place where she can just kick you out on a whim. Blending families is hard. I haven't done it, but I have watched others do it. Redefine the relationship. Work towards moving back in together but set some boundaries. Maintain your dignity, don't be a doormat. If you both want to be together, you will find a way. Best of luck
Author rj2010 Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 Thanks for your honest answer ! She thinks I am trying to control her by setting the boundary where in order for us to continue, I need to move back in, however, ironically, she was the one who controlled ME by making a decision that I could not live there...she decided FOR me, without a bilateral discussion.... So, can you be blunt and tell me whether I am being an A$$ for telling her that before we discuss any other issues, you need to be big enough to tell me to come back home so we can work out our issues the right way. Yes, she apologized, but this was a massive impact on my life....another uprooting for my son and I....and she was oblivious to it, and I want her to "give" on this. I let all else slide...i.e.. the proper way her pillows get arranged, the proper way to clean the dishes...lol....BUT, I pick my battles, and I feel I cannot cave on this, as much as I miss the great times we have together every time.... Uggh....what do you think? Thanks !
an6el Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I don't think my advice is going to help. I'm married. I'm 24 and my hubby is 37, he has a 3 year old. Whenever he comes over, I turn to mommy mode, cuz if i don't do anything who will take care of him, not saying my hubby won't take care of him, but I keep up with him taking baths, how much nutrients he eats every meal, etc. But from what I've read, it seems like she's taking you for granted. I know you love her dearly and you want to spend the rest of your life with her. But (I'm sorry for saying this) GROW SOME BALLS SET SOME BOUNDARIES AND LET HER KNOW WHAT'S UP. I'm not trying to be a dick... (maybe I am) but I don't like how she's treating you. She needs to know that she's the mother, not you. If you were to get married you'd be the Man in the relationship not the women. She needs to be there for her kids. This shows how immature she is. I know she has 2 kids and she doesn't have time to go and have fun. But still she should know the day she became a mother it's not going to be easy.
InJest Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 There is nothing stopping her from doing this again. If you want to show her that this is not okay, you need to tell her that you're not moving back into that place with her. That way she doesn't have the power to just kick you out at will, like she does at her parents' house. You have to think about your son in this situation. Do not put him in another situation where he is at her mercy. Truthfully, you should use this time to start dating other women too. I know you don't want to, and you're so in love(aka afraid of being alone), but you really need to start seeing other women, just so you don't think this one is the only option. Do you really want to be with someone who would treat you and your son like this on a whim?
Author rj2010 Posted June 20, 2012 Author Posted June 20, 2012 Thanks....the only thing that comes to mind is her parents even want HER out, as they want to sell the house and downsize, but they don't want to kick her out. When I first moved in, I know it took a lot to convince her dad to have me move in, even though her Dad likes me a lot. I spoke with him that time and I saw him concerned over how long we'd be there... With that added info, am I being unreasonable since I am backing her into a corner? If so, I wish she just told me that....
Author rj2010 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Update: Man, the scripts have flipped.... I investigated and re-read some stuff she sent me...and yes, she kicked me out to stop our battles, but she apologized and I know her parents didn't want me back in (I know they didn't want me in the first place, since they wanted the apartment enoty, nothing against me). Once I was out, they now want her to find a place. So, after she was calling, texting, E-mailing me to see where we stood for 3 weeks, I started talking to her again. We met up Friday night, had a major and ugly blowout. I walked out and she came back out for me.... and then we would up going back into her place and snuggling up/fooling around... The next day, I sent her a big mail telling her how I feel, and if she needs time, to take it and find out what she wants, because I'm ready for stability. She told me she wants the same with me, misses me, loves me, and wants everything with the guy she fell in love with a year ago... That night, she went out with her girl friends. She texted me a few times from the place she was at and said she missed me, and asked me to meet her there with my friends. I said we'll see, but to ring me whatever time she gets in so I can give her what she says she loved; to "fall asleep in my arms". I texted her that and two times, she didn't give me a straight answer (but she told me the day before she didn't know what time she'd be home that night). That night came and went. BUT...Words vs. Actions. She has been hit and miss, and almost acting indifferent to me. Her friends posted pix of her from that night out, and she looked great, and it kills me to look at the pic anymore since she is getting complements from her friends, but I don't want to even see any new comments... I cannot get her off my mind. A few weeks back, she was on the chase. How did this happen? I'm trying to reply only when she does, but I don't want her to think it's ME being indifferent... I'm trying to give her space..."If you love them, let them go..if they love you they'll come back""... I'm 40, have dated many women, and even my ex-wife of 8 years, I NEVER flet like this (yes...a guy with tears....first time in my life....it means something).... Any suggestions?....
manup Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Where do I Start? I am 40 with a 5 year old son, and my girlfriend is 40 with two sons 9 and 6. We've been dating 16 months, and we were living together for 6 months through mid-May. We had been battling over many little things, but a hot button was her kids and watching them. My son lives with his Mom most of the time, and her kids live there 80% of the time. I told her I will help with pickups/dropoffs at school and watching the kids during her time at work or for emergencies, if need be, however, she decided to start taking a Zumba class a few nights during the week, with a few other times over to her girlfriends houses. As innocent as those were, she expected me to always be the one to watch the kids for those non-work things, and if I could not, I hear the riot act. It all came to a head one weekend when she was shopping with her friends for 3 hours later than she said, and the place I needed to go was closed when she got back. On that day, I was very clear about my position of pickups/dropoffs at school and watching the kids during her time at work or for emergencies, if need be...but for anything else, it was not fair to expect me to do it. A battle ensued, then a chill........and that Thursday after, a massive battle where she told me to move out......and to preserve my self-pride and not fall in line (spineless men are not attractive to women !), I packed up and moved back hom the next day. She came home as I was leaving....tears fell from her eyes....but I didn't see any sign or remorse. The next day she said she was wrong..... And I told her if she told me to come back, I'd meet her half way and do it. We are stuck there....she keeps going on and on about the kids and said she wants someone, "to share responsibilities whether its household or taking care of eachothers kiddies if the other is not around for whatever the reason, with out argument" If I said NEVER....I'd be wrong.... But there has to be boundaries I love her (crazy about her), she says she's in love with me...we have fun together, and we are still dating.... We talk moving in together, but NOT in the same small apartment which is in her parent's basement, which she desperately wants out of ! But every time I go to her apartment...it's so sad because I was erased from there... But the pics of me and my family I took down when I was leaving, she put back up, and still has all of our relationship pics and cutesy things up.....(So I'm there, but not "there", kind of??) She knows I want to come back....I didn't want to hide it... But we go around and around when we talk about it... I'm hurt and it's SO hard like this.... Corny...but I loved going to bed and waking up with her!! Can someone help me see the forest for the trees? Put it all behind me and be thankful ? If so, for what? You sound like you have low testosterone, you should change your diet and hit the gym more.
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 This woman sounds like a stubborn, basket-case. Clearly the parents want you both out of there so they can go on with their lives and let her deal with her relationships and drama on her own...I'm sure they don't mind the kids but damn, you shouldn't be living there with her nor should she be living at home If possible, she should be trying to get herself out of this situation. Secondly, you're rolling over way too much for this woman and I doubt she's sincere about the things she is saying, I think she says what she does to control you and since she knows how you feel for her she's kinda got you by the balls and doesn't even really need to beg...plus you fight with this woman constantly, why the hell would you want to be living with this woman? I think you need to get the hell out of there...she only did what she needed to do to get you back on the hook. Find a woman that's got less baggage in her life because she's just going to drag you down, she expects you to play husband to her and her kids. You already moved on, what a great string of fortune...now take your pride, your life and self respect...get over this woman and find someone with less BS. She's only with a guy like you because she can wear the pants, you can't let her do this to you, you'll never be happy this woman is only thinking of herself. 2
Author rj2010 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 WOW Ninj....very well said... Hard to achieve, but well said.
FitChick Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Just another reason not to date someone with kids. This drama happens all too often for my taste.
seachangeoflove Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Just another reason not to date someone with kids. This drama happens all too often for my taste. I don't mind because I am fairly busy. I only have time for a SO maybe 1 or 2 nights a week and one weekend day. The rest is my time for my hobbies and work. but for less busy people it's probably a bad idea. I just don't meet the children. Not because I don't like them, I just feel it's inappropriate until much further along in the relationship. p.s my interests and hobbies are more important to me then a bf, so NO im not complaining. lol.
SJC2008 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 She went way overboard with the kid watching duties. She's got a babysitter and steady sex. Think about it if the roles were reversed, sounds like a good gig. Tell her you want to be with her but you must both be able to reach a compromise on the kid watching duties or you'll have to look for a more suitable mate.
Author rj2010 Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 Good point...everyone....very supportive. I have learned from past mistakes, but I am a work in progress, and I admit it. Where I am at now is an interesting point. We kind of gave each other space without officially saying the word space. I even offered it to her, but she refused and said she didn't need space, since she knew what she wanted with me. I wrote her a letter about what I wanted, what I would love to have with her, but if this was not the right time for her, that she needs not feel responsible to make me feel happy...just get herself to a happier place and then take step by step. I like to do little things and actions for her. However, I have not seen much in terms of the action of love from her, and I told her Words are nice, but Actions really prove you're ready. I was kidding around with her about he seeing other guys....not jealously, but teasing her like "you crazy kid!!" She wrote me: "I love you from the time I met u and still till this day.. let's get one thing straight ..I'm not seeing anyone. Nor do I want to see anyone else babe.. i want to try us again.. we have a lot to talk about.." Would you read between the lines on this, or this sounds like a strong indication of how she views us and a possible future together?
Feelsgoodman Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 Thanks All. The thing is that she keeps calling me and texting me and wants to see me, but I am standing firm on the fact that she could have handled it differently than kicking me out. Whats to stop her from doing it again in a new place? These are issues that we need to confront right back in the same apartment we were. The resentment building over her just cavalierly kicking me out is getting worse, and as oddball as this may sound: I love her too much to allow this resentment to build into hate over time.... She thinks I'm being stubborn, but it was ME that was uprooted, not her!!! So, that's my boundary....and I need to stand firm on it, or else I might as well put a "WELCOME" mat on my head and be a real doormat! I'd love to hear feedback on this. Thanks !! First of all, you were a fool to put yourself in this position. You are babysitting her kids while she's taking Zumba classes and hanging out with her friends? WTF?? This woman keeps talking about what she needs (someone to "share responsibility" for her kids), but what about your needs? I'm sure you have hobbies and interests too...why should they take second place to her's?
Author rj2010 Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 Hi Ladies and Gents, OK.....just to summarize the above: Dating my girlfriend for 1yr 4 months. Both 40 yrs old. She has two young boys and I have one. Her past showed cheating by her ex husband (the boys' dad), which left her with trust issues and not wanting to be or feel controlled. For the first year, I had needy clingy issues that clashed with her Controlling fears, and I told her I didn't like her seeing her friends when we had such limited alone time. Something snapped in me and I finally realized I was doing this and saw her pull away. So...I stopped and she saw the difference without me saying anything to her about my change. However, we argued a lot, and whenever we did, if I wanted it my way for once, I was accused of controlling her.... Long story short, I moved out last month after major arguments over stuff that was inconsiderate (not cheating)....but it spiraled. There was a mix up and I changed her to It's complicated on FB, and she changed her to Single...tit for tat. I laid low after I left as I was furious still, but she kept hounding me as to where we stand, etc. I truly am in love with her, so I slowly got back into a groove with her. But my big issue was she would say she loves me, wants me as a huge part of her life with the boys and she loves me more thank anything. But...it was sizzle...I wanted steak. I wanted to see action from her....you know....Don't listen to her words, Watch her Actions !!! So last weekend, she went out with her girlfriends, and she called me from the place and told me to meet her with my friends, which was cool....I said we'll see, and to ring me when she gets in and I should be back by then and I'll pop over, and added something funny to my msg to her. She just wrote LOL...I rephrased it and she said LOL. Didn't hear from her, and didn't mention it....but she felt I was not pleased. New guy pops up on her FB page Monday and puts smiley faces, starts liking all her pictures, and likes all her pics from Sat night with her friends...ODD...but I play it cool. However, during the week, as she pushed me with more loving words and such, I spoke about Actions. Of course, I made up a song as an LOL to tease her about the new guy, "So and So and Girlfriend, sitting in a tree" and wrote lol.....she said he's old, fat, and is the bus driver. HMMMM.... Well, the action I realized would put us in the Public eye and MUTUALLY commit ourselves in this digital age, is to put ourselves on our PUBLIC FB pages as In a Relationship, which brings us to yesterday. She said if we know it on our hearts, why do we have to do that again, and she does not want to keep adding it and removing it, especially after our rocky month or so... However, I pressed on and of course, was labeled controlling, however, I offered to change mine FIRST, and she would right after. She could not do it. I told her if she cannot mutually commit, this is not a good thing and we had choice words. A few mins later, I realized I went overboard, and wrote her that I feel strongly about this, but I could have phrased it differently. We continued on talking via E-mail and normal talk ensued...she asked when and if she will see me this weekend, etc....and I was refreshing her page, and right there.....was a profile picture of JUST her....the first time since we began dating. When she changed from couple pic to her kids, I swallowed it, and she asked if I liked the pic, and that "at least it wasn't a pic of just her alone"... I wrote I saw something disgusting and I gotta go. She asked, "Was it my profile pic" and I didn't reply. She has been texting me all day huge texts, but she wants to fix us and try us again and does not want to see anyone else and her life is with me....but she will not budge on the FB Status, which may seem minimal to most, but considering we MET on Facebook and we had that status up there for a long time, bells are going off that something fishy is going on, or she loves me, but deep down, something is off as reflected in her actions (or in-actions !!). She texted me a few hours ago when I told her we were done because she saw I was not going to give in on this one, and told me she told me I broke up with her and an expletive about it. BUT, I wrote back saying she broke up with me by not wanting to recommit at our age and our long history. Hey, I love her to death, but I need to see MORE than words...in light of the fishy stuff, as well....she needed to know her INACTION ended us.... So, the texting continued a little while longer.... My last text 3 hours ago was for her to "not minimize the importance of this to me", and I didn't like the way she was dismissing something important to me ONCE AGAIN. I ended with, "If your answer is NO, then very simply, my answer is NO".... AND THE TEXTS FROM HER STOPPED........ And the NO CONTACT begins....I've had practice the past month anyway with that with her. So....two things: 1. Guys, was I wrong? I know FB status is BS Stuff, but in the context of how we met and how we both use it daily and EVERYONE we each know is on it (plus the odd coincidence)??, and 2. Did I TOAST this relationship by ending it for this, and will she call me ? Thanks SO much !! R
thatone Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Being a single mom is REALLY hard. SHE is tired, exhausted, and needs help. HOWEVER, You two are not married. Thus, she has no right to ask this from you. She needs to stop demanding these things from you. Once you are married, then you share the responsibilities 50/50. Hence her needing a new doormat to replace the ex husband she ran off. Cry me a river. If she doesnt have the money to live outside of her parents house she has no business shopping for anything but groceries and hygiene stuff anyway. My gf raised her teenage daughter to this point alone with no child support, and never had parents basement as an option. Maybe she could write a how to for selfish brats like the OPs gf. OP, shes telling you who she is (selfish, spoiled, neglectful, dishonest, vindictive). Is the sex really worth it?
DjinnAgain Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 I am a single mom and it is nice for you to help out on occasion - but not to the extremes she took it to... not to mention there was not open communication and agreement on each occasion. My last boyfriend would sometimes "watch" my child -- usually it was just being there sleeping in case my child woke up while I went for a run, but sometimes it was taking my child out to play for an hour or two so I could get things done -- also agreed upon and he very much enjoyed the time. I have plenty of other options usually, and more than that I would more often than not rather be with my child than anywhere else in any case! This sounds like it was very frequent and am a bit curious why she even wanted to be away that much for girl's nights stuff. (I don't "get" zumba, but a little workout I do understand.) As for her behavior since, it seems incredibly immature for a 40 year old. You two should be having a calm, rational discussion together.
CarrieT Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 So....two things: 1. Guys, was I wrong? I know FB status is BS Stuff, but in the context of how we met and how we both use it daily and EVERYONE we each know is on it (plus the odd coincidence)??, and 2. Did I TOAST this relationship by ending it for this, and will she call me ? Thanks SO much !! R You are not wrong and I'm sorry it hurts. You didn't toast the relationship; she did. She was totally taking advantage of you and I believe you allowed it - to a point... She wasn't communicating effectively and once you gave her an inch, she tried to take a mile. Unless you were ready to be 100% supportive of her children ON HER TERMS, you were never going to "the one" for her. I'm currently dating a man who has three kids 50% of the time and after nine months, he is starting to ask me to occasionally babysit. This is a very calculated procedure as he/we are working on getting us all bonded to move towards a long-term future. But, as I said, it is very calculated and deliberate what I do with his kids but it is also done with a LOT of communication. Best to you, my friend. Move on and stay NC - do not answer her texts or calls when she does. You are better off...
Author rj2010 Posted July 2, 2012 Author Posted July 2, 2012 I reforwarded one of her texts from yesterday where she said she loved me, and asked if she just sent it or it got delayed...lol She wrote back within 5 minutes and said she meant every word she said and wished I was there with her.....so I broke NC in a tricky way, but no harm was done to me, her, or any small farm animals (LOL)... But seriously....we are talking and will do a face to face with her.... but juggling kids to get private UN interrupted talking time is harder than meeting the Pope !!..... But I will do that..... I will not bring up the FB stuff, and leave that to her (I will try hard not to) Incidentally, this was her thoughts before we stopped communications up to today: *********************************** Babe..first off..i honestly a d swear i never did anything physcially with any other guy..i have alot of friends of both sexes.. people are gonna comment on things and u cant get upset.. your obsessed with facebok, i go on it for silly quotes and check in places.. we have the same pics up all the time i constantly told asked u for new ones.. ur blowing up and screwing up this relationship over nothing.. we both havethe boys this weekend and instead of fighting they could of be hanging out and we could of rekindled and enjoyed the time together.. but look where u rather be..i didnt start going out more or drinking.. i went out a few times with friends like a always did..sorry if u were not used to that in your past life.. i can or we can have our life and a socal life to ..its normal,but u cant see that.. i want my life with a partner and our crazy boys enjoying life and having fun .. our stubborness got in the way of so much and it sucks.. im staying off of fb for a while.. i cant control on fb what people comment on.. its not fair that u are getting mad at me for fb crap..seriously.. my life is my kids i dont give a f*** about about anything else Im telling u now i will not let fb dictate orr prove im in a relationship with anyone anymore..it was in my heart that u were my bf and the man i wanted tto spend my life with.. I couldnt base my weekends and wonder if u were gonna talk to me or make solid pland with me so thats why i hung out with the girls..ii wanted nothing more then too spend my down time with my love..i miss it soo much.. i know it means nothing ..but i love u more than anything,and wanted nothing more than to share my life with you and our boys.. but u hav to spend time together to gett back on track in order to see where our life is going.. im trying but your not budging and your being difficult to communicate with..im sorry if u cant deal with little things that make me crazy..but look in the mirror my friend..u are not perfect.. its our imperfections that brought us together.. *********************************** Thanks for your support
CarrieT Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 You are being played, my friend... She is grasping at straws and will say anything to try and get you back. Facebook is not the issue but she doesn't even see that; it is just another straw on your camel's back.
WeAllMightBeNuts Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Rip the band aid off. Love yourself and your son without the drama.
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