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Eternal Sunshine Established Member

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Who is with me?

 

I decided to hold out for the right guy - the one I will be into physically, intellectually and emotionally.

 

Even if I end up with nothing, I think this is the right choice for me.

 

I am done with dating losers.

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musemaj11 Established Member

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Just because men cant stand you, doesnt mean they are losers.

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Eternal Sunshine Established Member

Eternal Sunshine

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given that I have ended all my dating situations post my relationship break-up....I highly doubt men can't stand me :lmao:

Philosoraptor Established Member

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Of course you shouldn't settle.

 

Just be patient and wait around for the right person.

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january2011 Established Member

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I like your attitude and I don't think you should settle when it comes to your non-negotiables. However, it's worth being flexible in terms of the negotiables. In my opinion, it's extremely rare that we find 100% compatibility. There needs to be some wiggle room from growth.

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Who is with me?

 

I decided to hold out for the right guy - the one I will be into physically, intellectually and emotionally.

 

Even if I end up with nothing, I think this is the right choice for me.

 

I am done with dating losers.

 

Frame that! :)

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Who is with me?

 

I decided to hold out for the right guy - the one I will be into physically, intellectually and emotionally.

 

Even if I end up with nothing, I think this is the right choice for me.

 

I am done with dating losers.

 

I disagree with your all or nothing mentality. I think if you have the right attitude, then you shouldn't ever meet 'losers'.

 

My last girlfriend and I weren't compatible in some major ways, but I wouldn't call her a loser.

 

In fact, she is the BOMB! :cool:

 

I still contact her a few times a week to see how she is doing.

Emilia Established Member

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Who is with me?

 

I decided to hold out for the right guy - the one I will be into physically, intellectually and emotionally.

 

Even if I end up with nothing, I think this is the right choice for me.

 

I am done with dating losers.

 

Yep! With you 100%. Not an easy path but I'm pretty sure it's a rewarding one

Els Established Member

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Definitely agree with that. If you're not interested in someone, there's really no point in it. Better to be alone and enjoy your singlehood, IMO.

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jakelongot Established Member

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I love the desparity on the website between men and women...

 

men: I can't get a date; i can't get laid; i can't talk to girls; no one likes me, etc...

 

women: Hate multiple dating; waiting for the right guy; no longer dating losers; why can't i meet the right guy, etc...

 

It's just funny to see sometimes. There are so many guys that can't get a date if their life depended on it and so many women who get plenty of dates but aren't satisfied with the people they meet.

 

How do we close this gap? What are we missing here?

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betterdeal Established Member

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I give it two days.

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Eternal Sunshine Established Member

Eternal Sunshine

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I give it two days.

 

Nah, I am being serious.

 

You can re-quote this if I ever so much as go on 1 date with someone I am not that into.

Els Established Member

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I love the desparity on the website between men and women...

 

men: I can't get a date; i can't get laid; i can't talk to girls; no one likes me, etc...

 

women: Hate multiple dating; waiting for the right guy; no longer dating losers; why can't i meet the right guy, etc...

 

It's just funny to see sometimes. There are so many guys that can't get a date if their life depended on it and so many women who get plenty of dates but aren't satisfied with the people they meet.

 

How do we close this gap? What are we missing here?

 

Uh.. no. Every single guy whom I have spoken to here has admitted that there ARE women they are not going to be interested in. They simply did not even think of them when they said that 'they can't get a date to save their life'. Believe me.

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DuchessKaye Established Member

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I am right there with you, ES...

NO SETTLING, definitely!

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kiss_andmakeup Established Member

kiss_andmakeup

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I think this is a good plan ES. :]

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jakelongot Established Member

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Uh.. no. Every single guy whom I have spoken to here has admitted that there ARE women they are not going to be interested in. They simply did not even think of them when they said that 'they can't get a date to save their life'. Believe me.

 

 

I am obviously generalizing. Not every single guy can't get a date and not every woman is fighting off men. But on the whole, this description fits the large majority of men and women on this site.

Radu Established Member

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Let's turn this thread in a girl-power manifest !

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Els Established Member

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I am obviously generalizing. Not every single guy can't get a date and not every woman is fighting off men. But on the whole, this description fits the large majority of men and women on this site.

 

God forbid you try to fix that warped mindset of yours. Cry me a river. ;)

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Definitely agree with that. If you're not interested in someone, there's really no point in it. Better to be alone and enjoy your singlehood, IMO.

 

And in the meantime, I highly recommend getting a dog. Great companionship, and no worries about who pays for everything.

 

There are so many guys that can't get a date if their life depended on it and so many women who get plenty of dates but aren't satisfied with the people they meet.

 

Remember that the guys are typically doing the asking. Some may be only asking out the handful of women that meet their predetermined list of criteria. So when they say they can't get a date if their life depended on it, it might actually be more like they can't get a date with a very small subset of all the women out there.

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You might want to watch this video AND read the article

 

Why is it OKAY to settle for Mr. Good Enough - The fading line between compromising and settling.

 

It's quite convincing, and is a great lesson to women who are so overly particular.

 

 

 

 

Who is with me?

 

I decided to hold out for the right guy - the one I will be into physically, intellectually and emotionally.

 

Even if I end up with nothing, I think this is the right choice for me.

 

I am done with dating losers.

Mme. Chaucer Established Member

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Needing to be into someone physically, mentally and emotionally is NOT being "overly particular." IMO, we all should hold out for this.

 

She is not saying that the guy has to be a certain height, listen to specific music, earn a particular salary, conform to some numeric code on a scale. None of that at all. It's not a "check list."

 

I do have a slight issue with calling guys who OP is NOT into on these 3 important levels "losers" … but that is kind of beside the point. Some of them might be losers, and others, she is just not into the way she needs to be.

 

"Settling" for a person you're not into physically, emotionally and mentally is not better than being alone, IMO.

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Mme. Chaucer Established Member

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It's quite convincing, and is a great lesson to women who are so overly particular.

 

You're a guy, right? What gives you the idea that you know what would be a "great lesson" for any woman in dating?

 

No offense, truly, but don't you often post about the unacceptable fatness of many women you see in your online dating perusal? Maybe YOU need to learn a lesson about being "overly particular"?

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Andy_K Established Member

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I decided to hold out for the right guy - the one I will be into physically, intellectually and emotionally.

 

Good start. So what are you doing to improve yourself on an ongoing basis to ensure you are deserving of such a guy?

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Good start. So what are you doing to improve yourself on an ongoing basis to ensure you are deserving of such a guy?

 

for starters, whenever she meets one, obsess over his every move, trade attention from him for loveshack attention, stir up some drama to make sure he realizes what she's doing, then break up with him before he gets a chance to leave her.

 

then repeat cycle toward infinity.

 

should work out great.

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Nah, I am being serious.

 

You can re-quote this if I ever so much as go on 1 date with someone I am not that into.

 

I challenge you to not go on dates whatsoever. Just hang out with people doing things you like doing and if one of those becomes boyfriend material, then jump his bones, not before.

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