whatshouldido Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 okay, i have a question for everyone is it possible to break up, see other people, and then get back together again? i know that its probably possible..but does it work? i haven't had any other boyfriends before, and i just broke up with my bf of 4.5 years, but i really do love him and we were great together, but i am also wondering what else is out there? is there any way that it would work for us to see other people ...i don't know like do "casual" dating or something? i don't even want sex or anythign, just to see what other type of people are out there, and to see if i'm missing out on anything....
meanttolive4ever Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 thats what me n my ex are doing right now even tho we're broke up..im seeing other people and so is he...hopefully he'll get the message soon..i love him so much
Good2Go Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 Some people want a pat on the head for holding onto someone who they know cares for them while they go shopping elsewhere to make sure they got the 'best deal' waiting. BE HONEST.....you are STILL SHOPPING. No problem with that. It's totally normal. The un-normal part is trying to keep someone else hanging on in the parking lot while you shop the Mall. Just break up with the other person and say you aren't SURE what you want yet. Don't play silly head games with him.
johan Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 I agree. Let him go like you're never going to be together again. Don't even try to predict that you'll get back together. If by some weird stroke of luck it happens, then congratulations. You can't keep someone hanging on. One thing I will say though, is if you were great together, then don't expect better with someone else. Committing and giving up on all the other possibilities, and then living up to that commitment, would make you one of the coolest women in the world in my opinion.
woodstok Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 not sure if he is the best deal out there? want to see if there is someone offering something better? You love him but you want to see if you could love someone else more, nothing wrong with that and by all means do what is best for you if you feel your missing out on something than you maybe are, so go explore, but and i mean it, dont leave my man waiting second in command, thats just not cool, and it hurts peoples feeling to feel second best and kind of in limbo as to what will happen. Let him go fly solo and if you two happen to land in the same spot then great, but dont keep him on the runway waiting to see if he should take off, because you obviously are already flying........
Author whatshouldido Posted June 30, 2004 Author Posted June 30, 2004 thanks for your advice everyone. now the only problem is, is that i don't know if he's going to let me go, even if i tell him to. i mean we're already broken up, but i don't know if he'll give up hope for their being an "us". i'm going to talk to him today, hopefully we can work something out.
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