secondmulligan Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 (edited) I'll try to make this as short and impartial as possible... I've been dating this girl for about 9 months (broken up a few times here and there but nothing serious). She told me long ago she had "insane jealousy" issues. I told her "sure, ok, no big deal, etc" A while later I noticed the first hinting of jealous creature. During an online game I wrote a comment to another girl in the server. My gf freaked out over it. She calmed down and everything went back to normal... for a while. More recently she found out I was playing a game with a group of 4 people (which I invited her to join, and she did), ONE of which happened to be a random girl I'd never met prior to this. This caused her to turn all sorts of red. She broke up with me on the spot, said she lost all trust in me, and questioned if we could ever be together again. Days later we rekindled a bit, took it slow, courted her again (letters, gifts, the works). We were on track to get back together or so it seemed. Then just the other day I happened to be playing the game when this same girl from before joined the server. A random occurrence. Somehow my GF found out about this (through her friends spying on me I assume, lol). Needless to say she yelled, cussed, cursed, and kicked me out of her life. Deleted me from profiles, never wants to talk to me again, etc (this wouldn't be the first time though). My question is... does all this sound reasonable? Was I in the wrong? But the clincher to the story is this: the entire time we've been together I was fine with her playing with any guy she wanted to, as many as she wanted to. It's just online gaming, right? And she would play with many different guys for many hours. She even hung out with guys in person. She was spending up to 8 hours at a time with one particular guy during a period of our turmoil (is that suspicious?). During our last break up she was kind enough to inform she regretted not cheating on me all the times she could have. Yet I'm the one who's not to be trusted? These incidents occurring during the time I asked if she was remaining faithful to me. She said she had no interest in other guys, didn't want anyone else, etc. How wrong I was? I'm trying to think about this rationally and would like some outside opinions on the situation. To me, this all seems to be a product of her controlling jealousy issues. The double standard is flagrant in my mind. I did also meet her while playing a PC game. Maybe that plays into her fear of me finding another gal online. Edited June 13, 2012 by secondmulligan
Eddie Edirol Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Nah shes nuts. Her problem is that since she breaks it off with you, she probably breaks it off with every guy shes with because she thinks she is right. One guy cheats on her and shes paranoid. You dodged a bullet. You dont need her insane insecurity in your life. it would just drain you.
veggirl Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 9 months in and you have broken up "here and there"? Plus she does all the things she does not allow or want you to do. Hi, huge red flags. Just let it go, let her go. She is a hypocrite, do as she says not as she does, and she has issues she needs to work out before entering a relationship. Breaking up multiple times in only 9 months is not something to sweep under the rug, it's a huge sign of incompatibility, again just let it go.
mortensorchid Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 That's just ridiculous. It's not you, it's her. It's one thing if you were chatting up women online in the hopes of meeting them, but if she would not like your gaming with women that you have never even met and interact as a gaming friend, then she has issues of jealousy that were there before you ever met. It's a shame that women have such jealousy and trust issues with men, you have to interact with others no matter what you do, be it business or personal.
username70 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 well- she seems to be unreasonable- but what is causing this? Did the last three bf meet someoneone and cheat on her from an online game???
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