GivenUp0083 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 It's been about 6 months since I last dated. My ex dumped me a little over a year ago and it's messed with me since and took me a lot of soul searching to get over (I was in love with her and she used me before dumping me). Anyway, I tried dating just a few months after and wasn't having much luck on the dating sites and I realized I wasn't ready to date yet. Now I have a date tomorrow night, and I think it'll be much easier for me this time around. I simply am much happier with myself now because of the things I've done to change my life and I'm not so dependent on someone else to be happy. If I find someone I connect with and we're a good match then great I'll go with it. But if not, it doesn't make or break my happiness, I already have a lot of good things going and many more dating options this time around.
january2011 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 As you found out, dating is something you don't know you're ready for until you actually do it. You sound like you're in a much better place emotionally and mentally compared to a few months ago. Good luck tomorrow and let us know how it goes!
Author GivenUp0083 Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 I ended up finding more photos of her and she's not nearly as attractive as her dating profile photos. I'm going to cancel our date today.
Emilia Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Is she fatter or skinnier? If not, it can be just a bad photo.
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 I ended up finding more photos of her and she's not nearly as attractive as her dating profile photos. I'm going to cancel our date today. lol, well that was an interesting turn of events! But maybe this is a good person to get your feet wet with? who knows, maybe she'll look good in person but probably not.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 Is she fatter or skinnier? If not, it can be just a bad photo. She not much fatter, but she doesn't look attractive. I found dozens of photos and her profile photos are in bad lighting now that I am going back to them. I'll just have to text her and say something came up. It feels mean but I don't want to waste our time or lead her on
Imajerk17 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 (edited) Show up. (A) Many women are more attractive than their pictures. In fact, EVERY woman I've met in OLD was at least somewhat prettier than her pictures. You might be pleasantly surprised when you meet up with this girl. (B) Texting someone "something came up" to cancel and then disappearing is a move that we guys HATE when women do it to us. Why pass that kind of behavior forward. You ever hear of karma? If you were to cancel, that would be a d!ck move on your part. If you're not interested after the date you can let her know it's not a match. © You'll get a chance to practice your social skills. Edited June 13, 2012 by Imajerk17 1
Author GivenUp0083 Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 Show up. (A) Many women are more attractive than their pictures. In fact, EVERY woman I've met in OLD was at least somewhat prettier than her pictures. You might be pleasantly surprised when you meet up with this girl. (B) Texting someone "something came up" to cancel and then disappearing is a move that we guys HATE when women do it to us. Why pass that kind of behavior forward. You ever hear of karma? If you were to cancel, that would be a d!ck move on your part. If you're not interested after the date you can let her know it's not a match. © You'll get a chance to practice your social skills. I know because my last gf didn't have great pictures either, but I can just tell with this girl I'm not attracted. It has happened to me and it does suck, but you need thick skin to do this and just take it as a time not wasted. I'm in sales, I'm plenty social, I don't need practice.
mortensorchid Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Wow, talk about a turn of events! Did you or didn't you show up for this get together?
Imajerk17 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Well at least make up an excuse about finding you're not ready to date or something. It's a little kinder.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 Well at least make up an excuse about finding you're not ready to date or something. It's a little kinder. I texted her that something came up for work.
malibustacydoll Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 I am curious what excuse you used/did you tell her you would reschedule or are you hoping she catches the drift? Also, how'd you find other pictures of her, facebook or? I texted her that something came up for work.
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