Confusedand30 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Hi.. I hope you have some free time as this maybe a long message and thanks in advance if you make it to the end and get back to me Ok.....so around 2 years ago I was living in Canada and I meet a girl for only one night. She was a friend of a another girl who I will call girl B. I spent alot of time getting drunk with girl B. So when girl A came to vist we all went out tfor drinks at he time nothing was said or happened with girl A as she had a BF and I was to busy having fun. Roll on 2 years and I am now living in Sydney where both of the girls are from and girl B who I am closer to invited me to a bar for drinks. She also invited girl A, we had fun and messed around flirting and stuff and at the end of the day she and girl b invited me and a friend to the beach the next day. More flirting at the beach ect. At this point I figured why not ask her out...so we had the below talk via facebook as it was my only contact to her a the time. Message: Me 6th of Nov 2011: Hey....Kid How's life ??? So just spent another weekend in the cross bored Feel like showing me somewhere new ???? Her (7 November 2011): Hey! Hmm I can attempt to show you somewhere interesting but I make no promises free sat night? Me (8 November 2011) Hey..... Saturday would be good Just a heads up you may want to pick somewhere dark and interesting as I have been talked into growing a Mo' for Movember lol Oh, don’t tell me where we are going surprise me Her (9 November 2011) Ok ******** txt me your number sometimes and I'll attempt to work out what to do I warn you however I am a terrible decision maker... ............. After this we arranged to meet in her part of town, the next bit I am abit unsure on as I don't have it on my phone any more. But the short version is that she said she had not friends coming out and I said i did not. So it ended up just the two of us. We went out and fun was had I think by both of us, while waiting for my train I kept her warm by hugging her etc. But I did not make a move, my bad and all. After this we settled into a pattern of flirting as friends I guess. I saw her 5 more time and always had fun including play fight etc....but still nothing. Then I moved away for work for a few months and tried to keep in touch via text. Some time she would get back to me that day, other next day and then just stop. Since I have been back I have seen her once. So I figured I would give it another go, but to try an keep in relax I used facebook again. Please see below: Me (28 May 2012) Hey..... Thanks for the invite to Tea it was great reason to get dressed up and have some fun Plus I now love your cupcakes !!! Her (30 May 2012) Glad you enjoyed yourself I can show you how to make the cupcakes sometime catch up soon! Me (3 June 2012) Hmmm.....A chance to learn to learn to make sweet cupcakes and tease you. ..................... Since then I have not got anything back. I was thinking of asking her out again ?? Should I ??? and if I do how facebook or try to get her to meet me face to face then do it ??? Help a very confused man
sid3 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 What are you trying to win? What's the prize for winning? Seriously, it was TLDR. Short version, if you like a girl, ask her out, on the phone or in person. She'll say yes or no. Pretty good odds IMO.
Author Confusedand30 Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 Hey... Yeah that was a bad title, was just trying to think of something to get people to read. I guess I am already winning just would be nice to know where I stand, I have pretty much come to the conclusion I have to ask her out and Phone would be better than facebook. I guess all I was hoping for is someone to read **** long story and say there is hope of not being turned down. Thanks
Philosoraptor Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 I'm not sure how strong her interest is but the worst you can do is be turned down. Go for it and at least eliminate the "what if" from your mind.
Christine52 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 5 dates of just flirting and you didn't make a move? She probably thinks you just enjoy flirting but aren't interested in a relationship, at least that's what I would think. If I were her (which I'm not), I would also be frustrated and a little annoyed that you haven't made your intentions clear yet. she probably has guy friends who flirt with her all the time. set yourself apart, stop with the flirting, and show her with action!!! Next time if you see her, tell her you think she's beautiful, and would like to take her on a date. And instead of making her make the plans, which to be honest is kind of lame, YOU plan the date, and woo her
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