Amber42 Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 Ok well i've been on and off dating this guy... and well we get into ALOT of fights over the most stupidest things in the world and most of the time i don't even know why we fight over most of the things we fight about... But we waste so much of our time fighting over these stupid things that in the end it leaves us broken up. But the we always end up getting back together at some point and the same thing happens all over again and now i have no idea what to do i don't know whether i should stay with him and see if things will work out this time and/or be like this for the rest of my life or just tell him that i just want to be friends with him... but the thing is i've told him that i just want to be friends with him so many times because we always kept fighting non-stop so i told him that i just wanted to be friends and keep talking to each other but everytime i told him that he always gets mad and always wants to keep getting back together i do want to be with him but i dont want to be in a relationship if everyday a fight happens between us. I don't know what to do i don't know whether to stay with him or break up and just ask him if we could friends?? HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!
Stargazer25 Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 [font=arial][/font] I fight with my boyfriend every day of every minute. HE is an abusive person, and no matter how hard I try to avoid these fights or hard I try to not make him mad, he is just that way. I don't know what your situation is, but fighting that often isn't healthy and believe me when I say it will wear you down emotionally, mentally and physically. If you can't stop fighting with him then regardless of what he says, get out to save yourself now, I wish I had done it sooner.
Author Amber42 Posted July 1, 2004 Author Posted July 1, 2004 I have the same problem i try so hard not to get him mad and i try to avoid fighting with him.. he is the same way also but its just hard for me to leave him cause i love him so much but if im goin to be fighting with him everyday that i talk to him then i don't think it's going to work between me and him for much longer. But thanks alot for the information and the help.. it helped me alot with my problem... and i hope everything works out for the best with you!
CurlyIam Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 Do you know which are the sensitive subjects? Like politics, economy or family in order to evoid the topics? If you fight over usual stuff, just try to be a bit less uptight. Be more willing to compromize and stop making a tragedy over everything. Put a bit of fun into your relationship, if it's not too late. I know fights are tiring, and seem to waiste people emotionally... So maybe one of you can make the decent thing and... grow up ?
Sweetcandi20 Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 you may thing that communication is clear, but in most fights communication is often miscommunicated......I know...try to get to the root of the problem....see who is at fault.....try to compromise and see what turns out. Also....sound like you two need a little time apart....most couples fight when they see each other too much, not insisting that you two break up just take a small vacation from one another. Tell him to hang out with the guys or you with your girl-friends...see what time apart does, if not....you may have to re-evaluate your relationship and see if it still has the Zing that made you fall in love!!!!!!
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