theedge Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 As I mentioned in a previous post about a girl I have been chatting with online. We started chatting in fall. Distance caused a problem and so I was some what uninterested in really getting to know her. A few months ago I realized she wasn't that far and thought I would really get to know her. We got to a point of talking on the phone and became even closer. She was talkative, sweet and I really started liking her. I started becoming emotionally attached to her. I expressed a more then friend interest and asked how she felt. She ended up saying I she was interested in me and wanted to see how things go. We continued talking and getting to know each other. We rarely if ever had an uncomfortable silence. I would send her e-mails about how much I liked her and compliment her. She never responded nor awknowleged them so I stopped. One day she said I like your e-mails can you send more? I did just that and again no awknowledgement. Lately what I am finding is that her moods are up and down and she is constantly tired. I figured to myself that well this is life and we have ups and downs. Even more so, she will contact me and then after a couple of minutes stops chatting. I ask her why she is so quiet and she says "I have nothing to say". I try to move the conversation along but sometimes it doesn't work. If someone says to me I have nothing to say I think they have become bored. As I wrote this I called her and we talked for about 1 hour and she is talkative. Maybe its hard for her to keep a conversation flowing online, I don't know. In general though it feels different. I actually wonder to myself if I come on too strong and therefore no challange. I do like to compliment people I am attracted to and I think it sometimes backfires with the idea of no challange. Sometimes I will catch on to what I am doing and more or less stop if its not being returned. In doing so of course this is detected, and they wonder why I seem different. In the past I have inflated women's ego. They tell me they have an interest and allow me to continue. Later they change their story and say they only considered me a friend all along. I wonder if I am going about things the wrong way and if I should follow the average male and act like I don't care. Ah I hate being confused! Anyone want to add to this?
LuvnCntry Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 Some people are chatty, others aren't. It sounds like your the type that could talk all nite.....and she's not...that's not necessarily a bad thing, unless of course it makes you unhappy....Maybe try not having long conversation every time you call... Whatever you do....don't stop being yourself....in the end you two may work out or you may end up being friends...but you should never change yourself.... Men like you are a rare....and there are definitely women out there that love your type... Good luck
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