PaperClip81 Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 I've been broken up with my ex for almost 6 months. A few weeks ago, I saw him on a date, I didn't think he saw me. Later that evening he texted me and apologized. I saw him again the next night, he was out with his friends. I was polite and said hi but walked away. He texted me that night, apologized again and told me how much he cares about me and how he never minds seeing me. He invited me over the next day for a drink. We hooked up (no sex, I said no) and I spent the night. After not talking all week, I went back over to his place, this time we didn't drink but we hooked up (no sex again) and I spent the night. Both times we had a really great time. What is going on here? Is he just trying to get some from me?
Tiera D Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Yes,isnt it obvious enough? friends with benefits TD
Mcnulty Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 What's to say he isn't still seeing this other girl? What if she is a lovely person, who is trying to find some happiness after a raw deal in life/with men...how does that make you feel? Yes he is trying to have his cake and eat it...do not be part of this.
Author PaperClip81 Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 I have no idea what is going on with the other girl, I have not asked and he has not volunteered. The two times that I have been over there his phone hasn't gone off once (it wasn't turned off either). I would like to think he's not the type that is just looking to use me but it sounds like he is?
Renard99 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 I think you have to ask two questions. The first is are you comfortable with what he's doing? (I.e, would you like to get back with him. Would you rather it be all or nothing. Would you be happy to sit in the inbetween area of 'friends'?) The second is asking him what he wants. If his answer doesn't match up with your answer from the first question then you need to break contact with him for your own sake. Tell him it's not what you want and move on (as much as that may hurt to do so)
Author PaperClip81 Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 Thanks, Renard. To be honest, all i know is that I don't want to be a side piece. We have an on again off again relationship that is in its longest "off again" period. This time its different because he is dating other people. I've tried, but haven't been successful. The most emotional he has ever been with me is in the past few weeks after we ran into each other. But you are right, I should just talk to him about it.
flitzanu Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 i really wish i could find girls as innocent and naive as you. sigh. yes, he's using you. if he wanted to be with you, he'd SAY so. he's obviously over you, he was out on a date. he can see that girl, and see you on the side, so why wouldn't he take all he can get?
geegirl Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 (edited) You'll be invited to hook up over and over until you cave and give him the goodies. At some point you will. He's just patiently waiting for a bone. Justbecause you said no, doesn't mean he doesn't want it. Plus you used the word "hook up"...you already know your reality. Edited June 14, 2012 by geegirl 1
LovelyDaze Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Find your worth. You have turned into "just sex", I am sorry. Love doesn't use and hurt the other person. If you are really okay with being his good time girl, then proceed with hooking up whenever he wants. You have to sit alone with yourself and ask if it is a life and a love that you deserve...
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