paperboy48 Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 You always here women say....I want a guy who is successful. So, what makes a guy successful?
InJest Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 In the scenario you outlined, it means,"I want a guy that makes a lot of money, but I don't want to sound like a gold digger and say that directly." 6
jobaba Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 You always here women say....I want a guy who is successful. So, what makes a guy successful? Salary. For most of the women I know, a man who makes at least $100,000 a year or close would be considered successful. Which is not too ridiculous and I certainly could have attained if my priorities had been elsewhere when I was younger. But not all women require that...
carhill Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 IMO, it's really hard to know. I once heard a comment from my best friend, regarding funding a project, when he said 'I like supporting successful people'. That kind of floored me because, by most societal metrics I interface with, I'm the epitome of invisible. My take-away from this is that the metrics I've been viewing/experiencing are just one part of the totality of perception of what successful is. That said, my best friend is not a woman, rather a man, so a woman's perspective might be completely different. I would opine that, subjectively speaking, the actions I've experienced over the decades aligned pretty well with the perhaps erroneous perspective I arrived at from them, that of invisibility, success-wise. Generally, that invisibility comes, in the community at large, from choosing not to be a mover and shaker and choosing not to seek out and pursue social popularity. So, outside of money and appearance, which, along with charisma, are usual 'reasons', IME it is social popularity which creates the vision of 'success'. True success, IMO, has many faces. If I die a happy old man in my sleep, I'll have considered my life a success. One face. 1
darkmoon Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 if a woman wants children, she will look out for someone who can afford them 1
pteromom Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 In this context, I agree that a woman saying "I want a guy who is successful" = "I want a guy who makes a decent salary and who is climbing up the ladder in his career." But yeh, TRUE success isn't based on simply money.
threebyfate Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 The definition of success will vary per woman. One key issue for me is being capable of living by a code of ethics, regardless of self-interest. Example: A man who won't use or support hookers.
sid3 Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 The definition of success will vary per woman. One key issue for me is being capable of living by a code of ethics, regardless of self-interest. Example: A man who won't use or support hookers. Haha! You have set the bar of success quite low. 1
irc333 Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 You always here women say....I want a guy who is successful. So, what makes a guy successful? It's a politically correct way of saying, "I'm looking for a man who is making enough money to buy me nice things" 2
ohmygoshistalk Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 i was talking to this guy on okcupid and he called me beautiful. i am not sure if he was sincere since i always doubt myself but i liked it, he also made jokes that made me laugh, he casually brought up his son (young boy) and i made jokes too. i think i like him and stuff , by being funny and opening up w/ flattery. its one thing to be called hot or sexy, but u usually cant say beautiful unless u mean it. cause i can only say handsome if i really mean it. it might not really be the same with him though, so i am only assuming. i wasnt able to reply to him due to work but he wasnt being needy sending a lot of mails and by accusing and stuff, so i mailed him and explained what happened. being needy and saying stuff like "ok so u dont reply etc" is something other guys do and it is kind of ..overwhelming. one thing that would mess things up though is if a guy appears to be flirting with 5 other girls or if he is being indecisive. a big turn off.
musemaj11 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Salary. For most of the women I know, a man who makes at least $100,000 a year or close would be considered successful. Which is not too ridiculous and I certainly could have attained if my priorities had been elsewhere when I was younger. But not all women require that... Those who dont require that are just not hot enough. The definition of success will vary per woman. One key issue for me is being capable of living by a code of ethics, regardless of self-interest. Example: A man who won't use or support hookers. But most women are hookers who trade money for sex and companionship. We men have very limited options you know.
january2011 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 I define success in terms of income, career level and field, assets and fame. However, these can be taken away in the blink of an eye. So, in my opinion, are not things that should be the sole decision-making points for whether a guy is 'worth it' or not.
DuchessKaye Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 If he is iving in a penthouse. Owns 4 storey houses. Driving Porsche. Wearing Yves Saint Laurent suit. Working as a CEO. Earning multi-millions. Married to a beautiful, kind and honest woman. Has 2 or 3 adorable kids. Then he is successful! 2
Emilia Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 You always here women say....I want a guy who is successful. So, what makes a guy successful? Achieving well within his field whatever it is. If he is a stockbroker, it's money; if he is an academic, it's peer-recognition; if he is a builder, having his own construction company. Achievement and being the best he can be in what he is doing.
Pianiste Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 In my opinion succes is a go-get-'em attitude -- not just at the workplace but also in other areas of ones life. I like it if a guy knows what he wants and strives to accomplish it. Besides that social decency is a must. Don't down play people, call them names or make silly generalisations... those things stopped being cool when I left high school.
El Brujo Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Easy answer. He doesn't have to maintain any illusions. WYSIWYG all the way, kiddo.
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 To me, "successful" means they're where they want to be professionally (or on the path to being there). What that goal is, is for the most part irrelevant, because the bottom line is that they're doing something that at the minimum pays the bills and above all makes them happy. I don't make a lot of money, but I consider myself "successful" because I'm doing what I've wanted to do for a long time, in a high-end sector, and am on the right path. My ex didn't make a lot of money, but he achieved what he had always wanted to do - being a chef in a high end restaurant. So I viewed him as successful despite his salary.
Thierro Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Girls like me because of my personality and how I make them feel. Just do what you like to do, that's more important than some girl.
threebyfate Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Haha! You have set the bar of success quite low.Only for the hooker aspect. Don't forget the rest of the code of ethics that he not only spouts but lives by. Plenty of people spout ethics but when it comes time to be disadvantaged when adhering to them, they tend to act in self-interest, rationalizing away their ethics. You see plenty of this on LS. 1
Leopard Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Most people here say to them successful means rich and lots of money. But I would like to add that success, in terms of finance, means having moved up the corporate ladder. For example, a fisherman from a small village now works as an employee in big company. He might not be rich, but that is successful in my opinion. Or if a regular citizen becomes the CEO of some huge corporation, that's success. But you can't say that an immigrant who was once on welfare that now works making over the average monthly income is not successful just because he isn't rich. Rich is rich, not successful. A man can have a penthouse and a Rolce Royce and for all you know he inherited it from his father or won the lottery.
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