Ben834 Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 I'll try and be brief! I met a girl (friend of a friend) a couple of weeks ago whilst I was out with friends in a local bar, and we just seemed to hit off right from the start. She told my friend that she found me really interesting and that all her previous boyfriends were dull and boring which is why she was single. She took my phone number and we ended up kissing that night and went back to my apartment, nothing happened as we were both far too drunk and just passed out in bed waking with banging headaches. Anyway, throughout the week we arranged to go out again for food and drinks on Sat night just gone. Personally I think we had a great night in each others company, she was feeling bloated after the meal and so wasn't really in the drinking mood, we went out at 7pm and stayed out until 1am where we each went our seperate ways with just a hug and a kiss on the cheek. She spent most of the time talking about her work, friends, family, and her activities - really interesting conversation right up until we left. I'm sure there was plenty more to talk about but I didn't really get much of a word in! I hope it didn't affect her opinion of me! I wouldn't consider myself dull and boring, more of an active type, but my achievements were nowhere near as good as hers! She has plans to emigrate to Europe in September for a year or 2, and the pre date report that I found out from my friend is that she doesn't really want to get hitched before she goes away but she does really like me. Post date I'm not so sure, I feel it went ok but I haven't really heard from her since Sunday, the day after our date. I know she's busy with work and sometimes it does take a while for her to find time to get in touch, but it's been 2 days now and don't know whether I should just accept that it's never going to happen. LDR's I can handle easily, I get plenty of time off work so travelling to Europe every couple of months is no big deal for me. Normally I wouldn't mind too much but this girl is something special! Way out of my league, someone I'd never expect to show interest in me! I've sent her 2 messages which I've had no reply to as of yet, and I don't want to send any more, would hate to be branded a stalker! So - do I sit tight, make another move, or accept defeat?
Oxy Moronovich Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Start looking for other chicks. I noticed two red flags about her: 1. She blamed all her failed relationships on her boyfriends. It's always a bad sign to get with a chick who blames all her failures on men. Plus, she also said the reason why she didn't like them was because they were boring. If that's true then it means she's an airhead who needs to be entertained 24/7. 2. She doesn't return messages. Like I said, look elsewhere.
Author Ben834 Posted June 12, 2012 Author Posted June 12, 2012 I'm not making excuses for her but she does work long hours and away from home a lot, something her previouses exes couldn't handle. I work away from home a lot - sometimes weeks at a time, and based on my own exes - they couldn't handle it! Lo and behold she's just got back to me lol. She's back home in a couple of days and so am I. I don't know what move to make...
Oxy Moronovich Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 My advice: bang her then dump her. She's not worth your time. There's better out there.
geegirl Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 She plans to emigrate for two years. She's not looking for anything serious. You on the other hand are already speaking of traveling up to Europe. Speaking of how you can handle LDRs. You're getting ahead of yourself. Did you for once think that when she is in Europe she may be having the time of her life exploring not just the sights but other opportunities when it comes to men? Can you handle that? She may find you interesting but trust me, when she is in a foreign land, there will be other interesting things to do. She won't be sitting around doing nothing, waiting on you to make your once in two month trip.
TheFinalWord Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 She plans to emigrate for two years. She's not looking for anything serious. You on the other hand are already speaking of traveling up to Europe. Speaking of how you can handle LDRs. You're getting ahead of yourself. Did you for once think that when she is in Europe she may be having the time of her life exploring not just the sights but other opportunities when it comes to men? Can you handle that? She may find you interesting but trust me, when she is in a foreign land, there will be other interesting things to do. She won't be sitting around doing nothing. I agree with geegirl. You are in a different mindset than this woman. You are already talking about marriage and she is not even near that mindset. The best thing you can do is stay in touch, don't smother her, and don't take her too seriously. Let her make the moves. Otherwise, she's gonna bolt!
Author Ben834 Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 Geegirl - I travel a lot anyway, something we have in common. I haven't been to Europe in about 10 years and it's somewhere I've wanted to go back to. This would be a good excuse to go back. But there is that risk you mention. Finalword - lol, I don't want marriage or even kids! I don't even want joint ownership of an apartment! It has to be mine! Seen too many people suffer from joint arrangements! I've asked to see her again when we're both home soon, but she can't make it. So I've now let her know it's up to her if/when she wants to meet up again to let me know. So it looks like we'll just keep in touch with no further progession atm
Author Ben834 Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 She's just told me she's been seeing her ex recently. Great. I don't know what on Earth has been going through her mind.. Should have gone with my / all of your instincts!
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