Dealing with a child from an affair

[sunflower5]

Damia- thank you for posting your story.

I am very sorry for what your XH put you through.

 

I make myself crazy with sitting around "wishing" the situation was different or trying to find a way to make it "right". H tells me I spend too much time worrying about OC. He said that OW doesn't care about my children so why should I care about hers. Um....maybe because I am not a heartless $itch. Just because OW hurt my kids by having an A with H and spending her time doing her dangest to ripe apart their family does not give me the right to be mean to the OC.

 

I may very well end up turning my back on this child. But it wont be without a lot of regret and guilt. But if the risk of the damage OW could do to my kids is too high....I will have to. I can't put the OC ahead of my own kids wellbeing. I am their mother and I have to think of them first.

I just wish she was a more reasonable, decent person. But then I guess she was a decent reasonable person she would never have been in an A.

[pattyfromMV]

H had an affair. She had his child. I knew her. I found out a few years later when she filed for CS. That was a year ago. Boy has a lot change since that bomb was dropped in my life. I went through a huge roller coaster of emotions.

I thank you for writing this post ,i felt I was alone in this situation. I just found out my husband had a n affair with my best friend and now she is 7 weeks pregnant . My H and I are trying to work passed this but my emotional state of mind is a mess. I'm not one to take meds but had to resort to some to control my state of mind. He says he would like to be a part of the baby's life , but not sure if she will allow it. Since he decided to end the 6 month affair, she has manipulated him by saying she will leave to another state and he'll never see his baby. Then she will call and say she lost it and next day no i didn't lose it. Now she claims she has a tumor in her stomache against babys head . this is emotionally wrecking our emotional state of mind. It's bad enough trying to get past the affair but the baby issue is far more than I can handle. I too try to see past the innocent child, it has no fault in their negligence.I would never any bad on the baby and i do hope it is born healthy and able to be part of my husband 's life. As for her Karma is a B.. that's something she will have to deal with since she got pregnant on purpose to trap him.

[whichwayisup]

I thank you for writing this post ,i felt I was alone in this situation. I just found out my husband had a n affair with my best friend and now she is 7 weeks pregnant . My H and I are trying to work passed this but my emotional state of mind is a mess. I'm not one to take meds but had to resort to some to control my state of mind. He says he would like to be a part of the baby's life , but not sure if she will allow it. Since he decided to end the 6 month affair, she has manipulated him by saying she will leave to another state and he'll never see his baby. Then she will call and say she lost it and next day no i didn't lose it. Now she claims she has a tumor in her stomache against babys head . this is emotionally wrecking our emotional state of mind. It's bad enough trying to get past the affair but the baby issue is far more than I can handle. I too try to see past the innocent child, it has no fault in their negligence.I would never any bad on the baby and i do hope it is born healthy and able to be part of my husband 's life. As for her Karma is a B.. that's something she will have to deal with since she got pregnant on purpose to trap him.

 

Please post your story..I would like to comment and help you but it wouldn't be fair to sunflower if I reply to your situation on her thread.

[sunflower5]

I am so sorry you are in the same position I am in. Please post your story. I would like to help you. There are some very important things you need to do NOW before the OC is born to protect yourself and any children you have.