LoverOfDance Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 If anyone has been reading any of my posts, I've been ranting and going on and on about this guy I had/have(still in the process of getting over him) a crush on. Just a week ago I had dropped my summer courses and was getting ready to move to another city because I honest couldn't see myself getting over this guy here. I honestly cannot tell u what I've been through trying to get over this guy. This is the hardest and toughest thing I've ever had to go through in my life and trust me I've been through a lot. I don't like to talk about how much hardship I've experienced in my life because I know there are people who have experienced worse. But anyways as impossible as I thought this was 4 me, I woke up this morning and I saw a twinkle at the end of this very dark tunnel that I've been in right now 4 months. Trust me when I say I have tried, I have tried very hard and I never saw a way out of it but this morning I woke up and felt different. I can feel myself slowly breaking free. My process has been very slow but it is happening nonetheless - I'm moving on. I cried 4 the 30th time but this time they were tears of joy. Honestly, if you're like me and you're finding it hard to let go, all u can do is believe that u can do it. That's what my friend said to me - believe. Best advice ever. Don't check on him/her to see how he/she is doing. I know it's hard. It's really hard but u can do it. Checking on your crush constantly is like touching an injury, the more contact u have with it, the more u prolong it's healing process. Just stay away. That's pretty much the only way. DO NOT GET ANOTHER PERSON TO CRUSH ON RIGHT AWAY. I honestly don't believe in that. Why get yourself back into something you just tried so hard to get out of. Give yourself time to heal and trust me, in no time you'll be a free woman/man/girl/boy:) 1
sid3 Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Thanks for sharing. I think you are confusing a 'crush' with what is actually an obsession. The later being unhealthy. I have a multiple of crushes at any given time, and depending on numerous factors, they either become dates or rejections. The difference I believe is that my world doesn't suddenly revolve around the outcome with any one individual. What helps me prevent becoming obsessed is that I am aware that none of them are perfect and my happiness is solely dependant on me. 1
Author LoverOfDance Posted June 12, 2012 Author Posted June 12, 2012 Yeah, I think my case is most likely an obsession and I believe it is because I have a tendency to see whoever I'm crushing on at the moment as "the one". It is definitely a flaw in thinking that I have become aware of and I think that's why I'm suddenly beginning to see myself getting over him. This experience has definitely taught me a valuable lesson and I know now what not to do next time.
sid3 Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Well it sounds as though you have turned a bad experience into a learning experience. If you managed to grow from it I'd say you're better off.
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