Cokeacola Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Ok. I'll admit to being pathetic and googling 'how to win back ex'. I'm almost living in a fantasy world. We had a great relationship - REALLY romantic and sweet to eachother. The problems started when I was asked to move in with him and his mum whilst we saved for our first place. It was all lovely until he lost his job. He tried his best to find something else and he eventually did. Sadly, this was four months after I moved in and things had become weird. Whenever we were out, we were in love and happy. However, as soon as we got back to his mums place it was different. The last 2 weeks I was there it became really bad and arguments became worse. We mutually broke up and I moved home. I have asked for him back and that things will be different etc but he has said no and that he wasnt happy for a very long time but he loves me? I did call, text etc after we broke up (acting like normal) and became a needy loser. He told me that I'm only making it harder. We broke up 5 days ago and I found out he joined a dating site the day after I left. I don't know what to feel anymore... I can't bear the thought of being with someone else but he obviously does. I'm doing the NC thing but it's difficult He's broken my heart and I still want him back.. I should hate him!! I just can't stop loving him and reminiscing. I have to go back to collect the last of my stuff... I know I should do it now and just move on but theres a part of me that doesn't so that I know I have an excuse to see him. I'm so pathetic
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 You didn't mutually break up, he broke up with you and you had to go along with it. He loves you and cares for you because of the past, but he's not in love with you and he's been over you for a long time, seems he was just waiting to move on and now he's telling you for sure he's moving on without you. So even though he says those emotions for you, they're really not worth a lot, they don't change or mean anything, it doesn't mean he sees himself getting back together with you...seems like you believe a lot of things this guys tells you. You need to just let go, accept that it's over so that you can start to heal from this breakup...he doesnt feel thesame way and all those memories you felt in the beginning are gone, they are just memories, they do not exist anymore in the present so stop holding onto them...time has moved on and his emotions have changed..you never go back in time only forward.
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