valparaiso2 Posted June 29, 2004 Posted June 29, 2004 tomorrow I'll travel away to study abroad for almost two months. I am 25, For several months I've seriously considered breaking up with my girlfriend after we have been together for some years. But my feelings are just so mixed, and I am quite uncertain about it. I am scared of doing the wrong thing in a way, at the same time I feel that I want independence and that it may be a chance for both of us to start all over if I get out of sight. If we stay together it will be much more difficult. I also fear that I may not be faithfull to her since I'll be seeing many people when I get away, and thats of course not a good feeling. And I dont know if its just to mean to leave her and just go away without being able to talk to her face to face. At the same time this break up thing scares me, and I have postponed it over and over again right to this departure. The worst case scenario is that I break up and gets totally down when I am abroad without beeing able to make it up. Hope to hear advice. thanx so much
HokeyReligions Posted June 29, 2004 Posted June 29, 2004 If you think you may be unfaithful, then DO break up with her now. Read the OW/OM posts for some opinions on what people think of cheaters. It will hurt her to break up now - but it will hurt her more if she thinks you are still hers and then she finds out that you have cheated on her. Print out your post and read it to her if you need to. But don't string her along. You don't love her enough to right now and that is not fair for either of you. She needs closure and a definitive answer now so that she can also move on. your post was decent and thoughtful -- go with that.
Mr Spock Posted June 29, 2004 Posted June 29, 2004 Most definetly. Be honest. Break up with her now. Have the strength to do what's right-which is not leaving her hanging while you're away having fun. She'll be miserable, but much less so than if you hadn't.
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