How could she f*cking do that to me?

[mynameistom]

If any of you read my other post, well the update is that I broke up with her, my reasoning being is that now, 3-4 months after it happened (I'll recap in a sec) and that I'm out of the severe depression or whatever the f*ck I was in, I see it for what it was.

 

The recap: Long story short - Ate a brownie with wayyyy to much in it and had a panic attack, constant panic attack for a few days, severe anxiety after that stopped for a month or so, and all that caused a depression up until a few weeks ago (1-2), during which my girlfriend began to get "tired of the way I was acting" because it was "inconvenient" or just "hard to get along and want to see someone who was depressed?". She would run off with her slutty girlfriend, the guy whos banging her, and his roomate who wanted to bang my ex (and would constantly text her 24/7 calling her 'baby' 'cutie' or 'sweetie', and wouldn't let me even talk to him for fear of me stealing away her new friends. "Inviting you clubbing with the 4 of us would make him uncomfortable. I don't want to hurt his feelings" meanwhile I'm sitting there crying from being depressed and how she wouldn't even give a **** about how I feel.... Man what a b!tch.

 

Swears up and down that he isn't worth our relationship and will never even talk to him again.... except for 3-4 months later (3 weeks ago) he texts her and I'm like, "you dont think you're texting him, do you?" she replies with a bunch of bs excuses and reasons why she should be able to have her friends and that im a controlling manipulative insecure person who has mental issues.... Man I'm getting pissed off typing this seeing it for how it is finally.

 

Apparently setting boundaries with one guy who overstepped it entirely (also, she did) is me controlling her entire life and not letting her see any single males at all, ever.

 

**** I hate her. Thank god I didn't put a ring on that.

 

It was my very first relationship, almost 4 years (2-3 weeks it should have been) and I'm just so messed up. I've actually been doing good now that I'm a bit more grown up and out of being mentally f*cked, but the thoughts/memories/emotions of it all are really messing with me... 'I'll never be happy again'... 'I'll be that loser in 10 years who is still a wreck because of her'... 'When I see her with someone else I'll break down and go insane'...

 

I realize that's all garbage but it just hurts a lot right now. D-day (did I do it right? lol) + 2 days so far. She was sending stupid garbage texts like "I don't deserve this *****. I'm not going to let this ruin my summer so unless you want to grow up don't talk to me again. Have a great life."

 

LIKE REALLY? SHE SAYS THAT TO ME? And of course I call her bluff and for the past two days she has texted me all I love yous and Can't live without yous....... SHOULDA THOUGHT THAT 3 MONTHS AGO BITCH.

 

Wow she makes me angry

haha

****

[Ninjainpajamas]

Just ignore her and get out of your element, change your life completely and surround yourself with things that distract you and calm you down even if you feel like sitting in a corner and rotting away being livid.

 

You've got to take your mind out of it, it's going to destroy you...hit the gym, dosomething you've been wanting to do a long time, a new hobbie, concentrate this rage and effort into something else, don't let it tear you down.

 

Stop trying to rehash the sitaution over and over in your head, it's never going to make sense and she clearly lacks the maturity or understanding in her position to change this so stop putting your head in the grinder.

 

Nothing you feel like doing is going to make you feel any better, try and do the opposite.

[Reddice]

...Swears up and down that he isn't worth our relationship and will never even talk to him again.... except for 3-4 months later (3 weeks ago) he texts her and I'm like, "you dont think you're texting him, do you?" she replies with a bunch of bs excuses and reasons why she should be able to have her friends and that im a controlling manipulative insecure person who has mental issues.... Man I'm getting pissed off typing this seeing it for how it is finally.

 

Apparently setting boundaries with one guy who overstepped it entirely (also, she did) is me controlling her entire life and not letting her see any single males at all, ever.

 

I don't even know how to start man... this part of your story happened to me too, in almost exactly the same way. The amount of lies and deceiving we've had to put up with is ridiculous. Four months after the break up, more and more situations like this come to mind. I too should have ended it sooner. So I understand your anger and I thinks it's good to be angry. But just don't let it consume you, ok? This chick doesn't even deserve to be spit on.

[Chi townD]

Ignore her. She made her choice and she wants the other dude. So, anything she sends to you now is moot. It's BS. I mean, telling you that she doesn't deserve this crap and she not going to have you ruin HER summer? Just read that, it's all selfishly motivated.

 

Good on you to vent here rather to her. Because if you vented all of this to her, then all you would accomplish is to re-affirming her belief that dumping you was the right choice because you are such an ass. See how that works?

 

Sooner or later she's going to start to feel guilty on how she treated you, and if you vent your anger at her, you are only going to ease her guilt.

 

Go complete NC on her. Heal and move on.

[mynameistom]

I'd like to thank you guys for the responses so far. Once she realized I wasn't messing around, as in "Please stop texting me I don't want to hear from you anymore" ALL of the selfish texts turned into "I love you and everything reminds me of you" paragraphs, "My life is so empty without you" blah blah blah. I really love (loved..? ) the girl so it's hard to just ignore her... but seriously I don't want to marry someone who has a side like that. I'm only 19, but still, it seems so weird that I'll move on with someone else and eventually forget about this.

 

She said she was getting therapy for all of her emotional issues and that, and I said before that I'd be there for here through it, but that was at the end of my own issues so my mind was still clouded and I wasn't pissed off yet. I just wish none of this happened and she didn't act like that because now I feel like the as*hole for not giving her a ... 3rd chance. Because its not like anything physical actually happened... she just pooped all over my life like it was nothing.

 

But yes thank you guys again, it does make it easier venting here, and getting out to the gym and that and talking to other broads. I just took up squash too and man that sh*t is fun hahahahaha

[Sazerac]

I'd like to thank you guys for the responses so far. Once she realized I wasn't messing around, as in "Please stop texting me I don't want to hear from you anymore" ALL of the selfish texts turned into "I love you and everything reminds me of you" paragraphs, "My life is so empty without you" blah blah blah. I really love (loved..? ) the girl so it's hard to just ignore her... but seriously I don't want to marry someone who has a side like that. I'm only 19, but still, it seems so weird that I'll move on with someone else and eventually forget about this.

 

She said she was getting therapy for all of her emotional issues and that, and I said before that I'd be there for here through it, but that was at the end of my own issues so my mind was still clouded and I wasn't pissed off yet. I just wish none of this happened and she didn't act like that because now I feel like the as*hole for not giving her a ... 3rd chance. Because its not like anything physical actually happened... she just pooped all over my life like it was nothing.

 

But yes thank you guys again, it does make it easier venting here, and getting out to the gym and that and talking to other broads. I just took up squash too and man that sh*t is fun hahahahaha

 

You go, man! Sounds like you've got the right idea. There are plenty more out there, and quite a lot better, too - at least not fundamentally borked like your ex was. Best of luck to you.

[piggyoink]

I'm a firm believer in that swearing won't get you what you want.

[mynameistom]

I was just venting here, I don't swear at all to get my way with her, thanks for your valuable input though.

[Radu]

 

I realize that's all garbage but it just hurts a lot right now. D-day (did I do it right? lol) + 2 days so far. She was sending stupid garbage texts like "I don't deserve this *****. I'm not going to let this ruin my summer so unless you want to grow up don't talk to me again. Have a great life."

 

I would make this my FB/messenger status. Print it and put it on my wall, so that in no way in hell will I ever be tempted back to immature bastards like her.

Own that message, don't let it anger you.

 

You are 19, you will get over it.

[an6el]

not sure what you want us to say. I mean you did the right thing. Leaving her, enjoy your life without her. There are millions of mermaids in the sea.