hope1122 Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 I met him at the end of my freshman year of college (I'm now a rising senior), and he was a sophomore. We hit it off right away and became friends quickly. That next fall semester, we started dating. However, he didn't really want a "relationship" because he still had feelings for this girl he liked (who he cheated on his ex girlfriend of 3 years with), but he was pressured into dating me by all our friends. Two months later, he broke up with me. However, we continued to see each other (more of a physical aspect), but he wouldn't commit. Sometimes he'd walk off with other girls in front of my face. By the end of my sophomore year, he told me he loved me. By June, we were back together. However, a month later things went bad again and he flaked out and broke up with me. Yet, we still continued to "see each other", but he would still see other people too. The relationship became much more volatile. He would call me horrible names, threaten me, and throw my things. Finally, in the fall of my junior year, I cut him off. A month later, he wrote me a letter saying how he missed me and realized he wouldn't commit to me, but now he was ready. So I slowly allowed him back into my life. The whole semester we were "together", but he'd drunk text me every once in a while saying he didn't know if he wanted to commit since he was graduating soon, and couldn't do the relationship, etc. A week before graduation (aka last month), he said he didn't know if he loved me the way I loved him, or if I was the girl for him, and he didn't want a girlfriend in his "life transition". Again, I cut him off. However, I had booked a dinner cruise for him for his graduation gift (no refunds), and I didn't know what to do. A few days after I cut him off, he would text me saying he missed me, wanted me, and wanted to know why he never heard from me. A couple weeks later he spontaneously drove to see me (I live an hour and ten minutes away) to hang out, and stayed for hours. The next day, we went on the cruise, since we kind of had to, and we had an AMAZING time. He seemed really happy...and of course stuff happened after... I left, and then five days went by without a word from him. So, I asked him what was going on, and his response was that he was complying with me "cutting him off" (which I had mentioned possibly doing), but also, he had a job interview in a few days and he had to be "spectacular" for it, and he didn't want to talk to me till after then because I was "already stressing him out". Needless to say, I will NOT be contacting him...as angry as I am, I miss him SO much. I feel like he is already completely forgetting about me and doesn't care anymore. This relationship has destroyed me emotionally and mentally, affected my education, and caused tension with my family. I already suffer from depression but now I can barely get out of bed. Any guidance would be appreciated....
Philosoraptor Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 He's doing what he can to not feel guilty. Shifted the blame towards you and he can attempt to leave this with his hands clean. Just take care of yourself for now. Take up a new hobby, join a group or club, etc. Keep busy and learn to live in the moment.
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