Meg717 Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 So I joined eharmony during a free weekend and I talked to some nice guys. I didn't want to join bc I felt it was too expensive so I gave them my email so we could keep talking. Long story short...some drama went down with my ex last week and I was a wreck and I knew I wasnt ready to date. I sent an email to the one guy I was still talking to explaining I wasn't ready and he understood. Now this guy has sent me a friend request on facebook..do I accept? I'm hesitant bc I don't want him to see something on Fb and think I was lying or making something up.
Emilia Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 I don't think it's wise to accept people on your facebook if you have never met in person. You don't know who he is
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Yeah facebook is like opening the door to your room and letting some stranger snoop around. Give him your email address and get to know him better, tell him yuo're going through some things rightnow. If he reallylikes you and you really connect you can postpone thatdate for the future. However the situation with your ex is a whole other story, sounds like you're setting yourself up for a rebound being so emotionally unstable.
LittlePrince Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 So I joined eharmony during a free weekend and I talked to some nice guys. I didn't want to join bc I felt it was too expensive so I gave them my email so we could keep talking. Long story short...some drama went down with my ex last week and I was a wreck and I knew I wasnt ready to date. I sent an email to the one guy I was still talking to explaining I wasn't ready and he understood. Now this guy has sent me a friend request on facebook..do I accept? I'm hesitant bc I don't want him to see something on Fb and think I was lying or making something up. You don't have to worry about lying or making something up unless you did.
Author Meg717 Posted June 12, 2012 Author Posted June 12, 2012 Yeah facebook is like opening the door to your room and letting some stranger snoop around. Give him your email address and get to know him better, tell him yuo're going through some things rightnow. If he reallylikes you and you really connect you can postpone thatdate for the future. However the situation with your ex is a whole other story, sounds like you're setting yourself up for a rebound being so emotionally unstable. I totally agree with both things you said. I don't want to hurt anyone bc of my emotional baggage right now and when I saw the friend request I was a little upset. I sort of felt like I explained to this guy via email that I wasn't ready and now he's trying to be my friend on Facebook. I could understand if him and I really hit it off but in all honesty it was grazing the surface of conversation.
Author Meg717 Posted June 12, 2012 Author Posted June 12, 2012 You don't have to worry about lying or making something up unless you did. Yea...I guess my thing is that I know I'm not ready to date which is why I deactivated my dating website accounts, however, if I should meet someone by chance I don't want this guy to get the wrong idea.
Shaun-Dro Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 So I joined eharmony during a free weekend and I talked to some nice guys. I didn't want to join bc I felt it was too expensive so I gave them my email so we could keep talking. Long story short...some drama went down with my ex last week and I was a wreck and I knew I wasnt ready to date. I sent an email to the one guy I was still talking to explaining I wasn't ready and he understood. Now this guy has sent me a friend request on facebook..do I accept? I'm hesitant bc I don't want him to see something on Fb and think I was lying or making something up. If you're serious about giving this guy a shot, why don't you just give him your email or cell number so he can reach you that way? Leave the drama on Facebook where it belongs.
truth_seeker Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 (edited) I don't think it's wise to accept people on your facebook if you have never met in person. You don't know who he is This is a toss up. I can understand why people shouldn't accept people for privacy issues, but if they have 500 plus people on their page then all bets are off. If they have 200 or less people then most likely they reserve their facebook for people they really know or acquaintances they've actually met in person. If you are like this then hold off on the friend request and wait till you know him more before accepting. If you have 500 or more friends then this shouldn't be a big deal. I would think you would be trying to hide something, such as pictures with lots of men, partying with girlfriends, things like that can leave quite an impression. I've met girls who seemed nice in person and came off like sorority sluts on their facebook. Big turn off. Edited June 13, 2012 by truth_seeker
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