funnykitty28 Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Has anyone lived with their husband/wife after they told you they dont love you anymore and it worked out? It seems this is out only option. I love him so much but he has made it clear he has no feelings for me and doesn't think he ever will, but we got two small kids and he's getting pressure from everyone saying he's stupid for leaving me. Now he doesn't know what to do cause he gets sick being around me (guilt/nerves) but he feels bad for not being here for me to help out (mostly cause I make him feel bad). I don't know what to do anymore. I wish it could just change over night but I know he didn't get here overnight. I wait every night for him to come home. It bothers Me that he would leave us alone in the house. He isn't very far but still I feel so much pressure taking care of the kids I never wanted to be a single Mother. The longer he is away the more I resent him. But I don't know if I want him back because maybe this is my chance to find someone who truly loves Me and lives for me.
Hopefulandinlove Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 (edited) Yes, so far it has worked for us. I don't know anymore than anyone else on here and everyone's situation is different, but I think that living apart during rough patches only teaches you how to live apart. Not fall back in love. Edited June 12, 2012 by Hopefulandinlove
Owl Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 There needs to be more to it than 'just' living together. What are you doing to repair the relationship, to rebuild the marriage? If he's just there...and not doing anything to actually change the situation...then that needs to change. He may be staying out of guilt/whatever...and folks may be telling him he's an idiot for leaving you...but if that truly is the only reason he's staying, and he's not willing to put any effort into trying to rebuild...it's just wasted time and effort on your part. INSIST that if he stays...he go with you to marriage counseling. INSIST that the two of you work on the marriage by courting again, by actively spending time together as a couple, and as a family. If he refuses...don't waste your time on him. Let him move out and suffer the consequences from his friends/familiy.
BrighterDaze Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Funny, Has he told you why he lost his feelings for you? Was this a sudden change or over a period of time? Were there any clues that he was unhappy? I would ask him, if you havent yet. I would want to know what happened. It might be something that can be changed. Counseling would be great to work on those things. The other side is your pain. You are waiting on him to make decisions on your relationship. Where do you stand and what do YOU want? Crying and worrying may not change anything, but taking some control back could help you feel better and allow you to make healthy decisions.
Furious Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 How old are your children? Has the marriage been rocky for some time, or has it been recent?
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