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My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 months now. Things started out well, as they usually do, but now I'm beginning to see another side of him and it frightens me. He has stopped making as much time for me as he used to, like phone calls or texts, and we maybe see each other 2 days out of the week because of his job/my job. I fought hard to stay with him and be here for him when he was just recently going through a tough residence move. I put my issues aside for him. Now I'm starting to think he is the only one "allowed" to have problems if that makes sense, because I feel that I am here for him much more than he is for me. He IS younger...by 4 years. He's only 20.

 

He has these terrible mood swings where he will start yelling at me for something hat is completely not my fault. One minute he's prince charming, he next he is Satan.

 

On the other side of the coin...he is so loving and passionate when he is in a good mood, and he makes me laugh even when I'm upset. He has his own place, car, career, etc. which is more than I can say for a lot of men my own age.

 

What scares me is that he has the ability to pick me up and make me feel like a goddess, yet at the same time he could completely destroy me.

 

Is this roller coaster relationship worth he good times? will things ventually begin to level out and just be stable with time? Is hat poss

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What you're describing is exactly the symptoms of an abusive person.

 

I believe there is truth behind what people say: You only know someone's true feelings towards you by how they treat you during a fight.

 

EDIT: Realized I didn't answer your question. If you want it straight up, then no it won't work. It might be his age or what not, but if that's how he treats you when things are supposed to be great and new in a relationship, imagine a few months down the road. I would say get out and NOW. The fact that you are even tolerate him now tells him that he can get away with it, so he will push his limits to see how far he can get.

 

In a few months time, if this continues, you will post here about how he hit you. Trust me, I know men like this.

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NO it is not worth it.

 

He is already taking a toll on your self esteem. Please leave before it gets worth!!! He will suck you in with the highs--do not allow this cycle to continue!

 

Rule of thumb: if you can describe your BF as being like "Satan", you should LEAVE.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 months now. Things started out well, as they usually do, but now I'm beginning to see another side of him and it frightens me. He has stopped making as much time for me as he used to, like phone calls or texts, and we maybe see each other 2 days out of the week because of his job/my job. I fought hard to stay with him and be here for him when he was just recently going through a tough residence move. I put my issues aside for him. Now I'm starting to think he is the only one "allowed" to have problems if that makes sense, because I feel that I am here for him much more than he is for me. He IS younger...by 4 years. He's only 20.

Reading this left me scratching my head. You are "frightened" by the fact that he calls/texts you less? [iB]Frightened[/b]?? Usually women get frightened when their boyfriends start punching holes in walls or talk obsessively about serial killers. And you are frightened because he doesn't text you as often as you want? For real?

 

And what's with being there for him during a "tough residence move"? What's so tough about it anyway? If moving is such a big crisis in his life, what do you think is going to happen when he has to deal with real problems?

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That's rough. He's not a good guy, he's an abusive person. One minute he's alright then the next he's crazy? I know men and women like that, and once they get the things that they want they let the other side show itself.

 

Remember that he's not going to change, so if he ever raises his voice to you (let alone his hands) you are going to see a monster.

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And what's with being there for him during a "tough residence move"? What's so tough about it anyway? If moving is such a big crisis in his life, what do you think is going to happen when he has to deal with real problems?

 

I think he just used this as an excuse for being such a d*ck.

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