joel Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 was talking to a friend and he was giving me advice on how i should take more time in getting to know the girl before i let it go and say shes not the right one for me. i can tell. examples. a girl i met we walked 3 blocks and she was tired and didnt want to walk to where the park was. i walk everywhere and like walking on sunny days another girls-ask me a lot of questions on my financial , where i get my clothes, what i do and my job but never asked about me. what makes me happy, what i like to do, future but just about my material possesions and financial job , status another girl-- tells me she drank too much on a saturday and threw up all over her bed sheets. not much type since its a turn off at her age 28 . i talk and meet these girls for 1 hr on a date and sometimes if in a social setting for 15-20 minutes and i can tell if shes my type of not. the connection and chemistry you can just see it there. how long does it take for you to find out if that person is your type or not or does it take 3 dates to go out wth them more and more. i like to hear your thoughts and how can you tell that this person isnt your type any filters
january2011 Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 It's very difficult to put a length of time on something like this. However, my first thought is that if I can't talk to this person then they're not my 'type' - as far as one can have a 'type'. That is, if the conversation doesn't flow, then it's difficult to get to know that person and build a relationship. I accept that there might be some false negatives as well as some false positives, but I see it as an indication of incompatibility if we can't have a conversaton without it being awkward. In terms of tips, I suggest knowing yourself first. Then use that knowledge to get to know others and create your filters to fine tune your people picker.
zengirl Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 It really varies. Sometimes I knew immediately, sometimes it took me awhile. You know when you know. It's not like there's some bio-scan I can perform to know that always takes 4.65 hours or anything. It depends on the person. If you know someone is not right, best to let it go right then. Why carry on? Unless you are regretting it later or just frequently having trouble --- then maybe rethink your style.
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