Aquamelon Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 Just had a huge blow-out with my boyfriend this past weekend. He told me at one point in the conversation he didn't know whether or not he wanted to be with me or wanted to move out to Jersey to be with me next year. We talked things out and he told me he still loves me and is willing to move out here. He says he was just having his moment of doubt which I can understand since he's giving up so much to be with me and the past few weeks have been rough with me constantly giving him **** for the most insignificant things. But now I'm stuck, I feel so heartbroken over the things he said. I find myself not believing him when he says he's moving here and that he loves me. I had all this confidence that things would work out and he would move out here and things would be fantastic but now I’m so scared that after the July trip he’s going to break things off with me. Is this normal for a long distance relationship? Like for one half to start feeling too much pressure and start having brief doubts?
Philosoraptor Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 Well what did he say exactly to make you think he is reconsidering things? It's not abnormal at all to have doubts when making a huge life change. It's a constant weighing of positives versus negatives of all choices and trying to figure out what will be best for them in the long run.
Author Aquamelon Posted June 11, 2012 Author Posted June 11, 2012 Well what did he say exactly to make you think he is reconsidering things? It's not abnormal at all to have doubts when making a huge life change. It's a constant weighing of positives versus negatives of all choices and trying to figure out what will be best for them in the long run. He told me didn't want to leave his friends and that he really likes his job and wouldn't want to leave it. When I asked him if he still wanted to be with me, he said he didn't know. He's crying as he says all this and I am too. Then it was like maybe 10 minutes and he said he does love me, it's just things have been so hard lately. Like he feels he doesn't have time to do all the things he'd like to do. You see he moved back to his hometown in January (he was in another state for a year before then living with other friends), started his job and started dating me within 2 weeks of being back home. So he feels he hasn't gotten a chance to do any of the things he'd hope to get done when he moved back home. We talked things out and I made him understand that he has all the time in the world to do the things he wants and that he doesn't have to feel like he has to talk to me 24/7. I don't want to lost faith in his words. I want to believe in the things he tells me and that we'll end up together. But it's a whole year until we are together and it's scaring me to no end.
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