DuchessKaye Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 But he is still treating her nice, still accepting her invites to get together and paying for her food and drinks all the time, not ignoring her texts and calls and he obviously doesn't want to make her feel bad. Is he being nice because he cares for her even though he is not interested to have a relationship with her? Or is he just being coward to let her down because he can't handle the guilt of rejecting her? Is he giving her the favor of not being hurt? Or is he giving himself the favor of not being guilty?
d'Arthez Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 Is he being nice because he cares for her even though he is not interested to have a relationship with her? Or is he just being coward to let her down because he can't handle the guilt of rejecting her? Could be both. Observe how he treats other women, and you'll have your answer.
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 Human beings are not so unselfish that they would be with someone just because they feel "too guilty" to end it. He does it because he gets something out of it. Most likely, sex, fun, and an edge off loneliness. It is not out of all realm of possibility that he has feelings that he doesn't want to admit to, but I would say this is quite unlikely. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 Little bit of both. Just because a guy pays doesn't mean he's interested necessarily,he could be being polite, generous or maybe he doesn't even care much although most guys paying will want something out of it but not all are desperate, and some are just incapable of letting a woman pay or unsure/uncomfortable on how to go about it. Some of these also don't mind the company either. However it seems like he cares a little bit, but If he were interested a move would have been made, if he acts casual about it he's not very interested, he may just be in a limbo state of uncertainty...debating whether to make a move or not, or unsure about his feelings so stringing it out. Most guys don't want to feel like the bad guy, and won't do things that make them feel this way, for example "I may have been unclear and misleading her..but I try to deny that and at least can say that I treated her well and respectfully". Rather than just flat out reject you and feel guilty about it, especially if they were playing ball up to this point...they may care about that, but this never removes a sexual interest in a woman, the majority of men are game for that if there are no forseeable consequences. So he may be acting nice, generous, but also partly a coward because he's leaving things unclear intentionally...because a man is clear when his motives are for a relationship, there's no sitting on the fence unless you want less than that or something inbetween if you want the honest mans truth. 2
Author DuchessKaye Posted June 16, 2012 Author Posted June 16, 2012 Thanks for the replies. I'm all contented with what Ninja had to say
FitChick Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 (edited) he's leaving things unclear intentionally...because a man is clear when his motives are for a relationship, there's no sitting on the fence unless you want less than that or something inbetween if you want the honest mans truth. This is such an IMPORTANT point that women need to memorize! Then we'd have less "he's sending me mixed signals, what does it mean" threads. Edited June 16, 2012 by FitChick 2
Eddie Edirol Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 But he is still treating her nice, still accepting her invites to get together and paying for her food and drinks all the time, not ignoring her texts and calls and he obviously doesn't want to make her feel bad. Is he being nice because he cares for her even though he is not interested to have a relationship with her? Or is he just being coward to let her down because he can't handle the guilt of rejecting her? Is he giving her the favor of not being hurt? Or is he giving himself the favor of not being guilty? He's waiting for something better to come along while deliberately keeping her in limbo. He knows what he wants, but its not her...not until his options run out.
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