The Poster Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 I'm making great progress in moving forward. I feel a lot better now than I did months ago. I still have my days, but for the most part I'm getting there. But there is a problem. My ex and I are tied into a debt currently. Now, I'm not going to get into great detail but she is the one that needs to pay it, and she knows it, we talked about it. Because my name is tied to it, I have to deal with as well. So I've made the first few payments because A. She had no money and B. I had no choice. So it seemingly came to a point where I'd pay the the monthly bill and she'd send me checks until it was paid off. I was fine with that. Except, she isn't sending me money. She did send me one check a few months ago, but that was it. We've been texting about it and she keeps telling me she is going to send more money, but she never does. And when I follow up with it, she ignores me. So, I'm not sure what to do. I mean, I don't NEED the money right now, but the debt is a few thousand dollars and it's just fair that I have to make the payments when it's her problem. She knows this, and honestly texting her about it and being lied to and played is making me depressed/frustrated/bitter and stopping my momentum of moving on. My thought is to just put it on the back-burner, focus on bettering my life and future and just keep making the payments and hope she comes around and realizes she can't keep doing this. Anyone have any advice? All I ever wanted was peace with her but she makes it hard.
Author The Poster Posted June 11, 2012 Author Posted June 11, 2012 I forgot to mention that she probably is low on money, which I understand. But if that's why she isn't sending me anything, why doesn't she just tell me that? I don't get it. Maybe it's a pride thing or something.
Own Worst Enemy Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 And a "without prejudice" letter to soften the blow, explaining that if she sticks to the arrangement, nothing else will happen 1
TaraMaiden Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 I agree. Get a lawyer to draft a demand letter. Then you send her a separate "without Prejudice" letter, but understand that if it does go to a civil court to get your money back, you cannot enter your letter into the proceedings as an official document. You can only present the Lawyer's letter, but you can make mention of the offer you also made. The fact she doesn't have a lot of money is something she should have thought of before she agreed to the joint loan. A lack of planning on her part, should not constitute an emergency on yours.
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