SeperatedDad Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 (edited) I'm kind of confused as to my x's behavior. We divorced last Aug. She is now engaged and pregnant with other guys baby. During our text regarding my 3 yr old son growth and development she has been a short BI..H when the bf is with her. But when hes not around she with have long text conversations about his well being and what going on with her and thing about my well being. When I pick my son up from her place she is always kind and nice wanting to talk and head outside with us to the point that its like she want to keep the conversation alive. Even when its her day to drop him off she talks and lets me know what's going on in her life except for her relationship! I guess I'm to the point of wtf? I understand that she wants to keep things friendly but why be kind and nice like nothing has changed with us then treat me like a fool who doesn't know she has another life with him. Is this a guilt thing or a power trip to get to me? I just don't get why she continues to do this. I'm to a point where i want to rip her a new one and say this is why I lost interest in our marriage and unload on her. I don't want this process to continue in to her next relationship and see my son become attached to the guys shes with and get hurt. Edited June 11, 2012 by SeperatedDad
YellowShark Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 (edited) Its mind games. Possibly a guilt thing. By playing all nice. Cuz it's a pretty big slap in the face that she is engaged and pregnant only 10 months after you divorced! It's kinda ok to be pissed off. Anyhow I'd say she is officially no longer your concern. So make all communications brief and strictly about your 3 year old. Period. No pleasantries, no reminiscing about the past. Strictly business concerning the child. No long texts or emails. Your personal life is a black hole as far as she is concerned. When you pick up the kid it's "hello I'll be back at _____." And that's it. She's another man's problem now. You're free! Edited June 11, 2012 by YellowShark
Balzac Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 It's normal to want to protect your child. Your task is to accept the things you cannot control. You cannot control or change her. Your child will soon have a half-sibling. Focus and supporting your child through this change in his life is all that you need do for now. Your son will always have your love and stability. He will always be aware that you are daddy. Explaining the new baby and that daddy gig is not as easy. How will the stepfather treat your child in this new parenting dynamic? Focus on what you have some ability to control.
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