no time.

[mafalda]

well, i have been in a LDR for about a year and I love my boyfriend and believe he loves me. now, things have become harder as my boyfriend never has time for me and all we do is talk 3 minutes while driving or before falling asleep. It really hurts me and I have really tried to understand he has things to do (Work,cook,gym,soccer,rest). sometimes, he may have the time but is too stressed about work or tired from the gym or both! I have spoke to him several times and all he tells me is he knows I'm right and doesn't want me to hurt. yet, nothing changes. it's been more than six months like this and i always have to understand he is busy. what i still don't understand is why he is looking for more activities to do. lately, I have been crying a lot alone and getting angry at him. I love him and really want to understand him, but i feel like he is not meeting me half way. I'm afraid if I keep complaining I'll just push him away or i'll grew apart from him:(

Edited June 11, 2012 by mafalda

[Philosoraptor]

If this is how you're feeling do you really want to stay in this relationship?

 

I'd say let your desires be known and accept whatever happens next. Just tell him you need more. If he's unwilling to put in the effort you should heal up then find someone who is willing to give you what you need.

[mafalda]

I have considered moving on as I don't want to see myself falling in a cycle where he will always have an excuse and things will never change. however, I have not done so because I'm afraid of the "what if", i don't want to walk away when I still love him and at the bottom of my heart I want to believe he is trying and things will change. I just don't know what's best.....if things continue like this he is going to push me away.

In a way I believe I would be happy with knowing he is trying, but I can't see that. sometimes he seems to understand, but his attitude is "this is all I can do, and the way it's going to stay".