Is she seeing sombody already it has only been a week and we were together 5 years

[gusman35]

Out of no ware she tells me that she thinks she is a better person without me. We had just went through a week of not talking to each oter.. Over the weekend I went to her job I really through that everything was going to work out, but then during the week she seemed very distant. She just didn't seem herself.. When you are with someone for over 5 years you can tell these things. SHe just didn't seem like she want to try.. I keept asking her what is the deal with me and you.. She would say the same thing every time. I want to work it out with you. Then one day last week after she had been saying there was noting wrong and she loved me she wanted to work it out with me.. She goes.. " You really want to know how I feel". I said I have been trying to get you to tell me how you feel now for the almost the hole week.. That was when she said that she felt like she was a better person without me.. She lives in the same town as me. So I go past her house everyday.. SHe has had all types of people over since she told me this.. I'm talking the very next day.. Just this sat I went over to her house just to see if I could talk with her.. She was having a pool party at 5 in the morning there were guys and girls.. But I have been with her for 5 years and not one time have I been able to do anything like that with her.. She has truly broke my hart.. I called her yesterday and just tried to get it out of her that she was seeing someone already she just gets mad and tells me that she isn't, but I don't think she is telling the truth.. I just want to get over her and if she would tell me that she was seeing someone that mite help.. She gets so mad when I call her.. I just hope that all the woman out there aren't like this.. Me and her have had our differences but I don't deserve this at all.. I just don't know how she could say she still loves me.. If she does still love me then love is something that I don't ever want to have or feel again for anyone.. She has scared me for life.. Are all woman so quick to forget a relashionship so deep and so loving for so long.. That they could just move on so fast ... Please help me find this out.. Thanks!

[Olivia_19742004]

People change. Someone can still love you and not want a life with you. It appears as though she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you anymore. You need to come to terms with the fact that the relationship is over and it doesn't matter if she has met someone else or not. Let her move on and let yourself move on, too.

[supermom]

Breaking up is HARD! Especially from a long time relationship. Not all women are like this.. Don't let this experience scare you from other relationships. Obviously you and her were not meant to be.

 

Allow yourself time to greave if you need to...STOP CALLING HER. Act as if you've forgotten her....I know you haven't but still.....if you see her, act like you are not bothered and are okay with the breakup.

 

Start going out with friends, have fun but if you do sleep with anyone WEAR A CONDOM please! (I'm sure you already know that)

 

Just remember....someday this will all be a thing of the past...I know easier said than done but all I remember with my experience when my first husband left me was...I will never love anyone again....my life is over.....I will never get over him... and I really thought this...but things did change and now I am remarried ( did this all too young to begin with, married at 19, divorced at 21 remarried at 23 and had child same year) now I'm 25 and I am very happy in my marriage, infact, we are even friends with my ex AND his wife. Weird story...

 

Anyway please just remember you will be okay again, just allow this time to be sad, you need it....this will be a thing of the past someday....

 

Good luck

[anotherperson]

Originally posted by supermom

Just remember....someday this will all be a thing of the past...I know easier said than done but all I remember with my experience when my first husband left me was...I will never love anyone again....my life is over.....I will never get over him... and I really thought this...but things did change and now I am remarried ( did this all too young to begin with, married at 19, divorced at 21 remarried at 23 and had child same year) now I'm 25 and I am very happy in my marriage, infact, we are even friends with my ex AND his wife. Weird story...

 

Thanks for sharing that. It's nice to hear the good stories about people actually moving on and being happy sometimes. Glad to hear things worked out for you.

[meanttolive4ever]

dont feel bad...after my ex dumped me...he started going out with a young girl than me 2 weeks after he dumped me...how do you think THAT made me feel..that was a double whammy.

[rd1978]

i had a girl of 5 years to saem thing happened she always used to yell at me for going out and stuff because she said that i need to grow up,,,, ok WELL we broke up and not even days and she is hanging out with someone else,,, and goes out like 4 times a week, constantly she just started a new job where she drive an hour to get to in the morning,,, but still goes out like crazy,, and hangs out with this kid 24/7 ,,,,, i think sometimes thats the only way they can leave if they find someon else right away or they have someone lined up ,,,{ the grass isnt always greener on the other side}