China Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 I lied in our relationship, I've learned my lesson, he is obsessive in the way he questions me, we are no longer together as he doesn't want to worry about me. He said he doesn't want to be together cause then he starts questioning worrying etc. he said he still loves me and do not want to start something with someone else, and he hates the idea of me being with someone else but know that I won't wait for him.. I miss him a lot, however I looked up for some online advice and read about the tactic of no contact.. I did that for one day.. At 6 am he started calling and sending texts.. In which he accuses me of being with someone else and name calling.. Which is not true! I want to work things out with him, as bad as he can get he has an amazing side of him. And I know we would be happy. I wasn't ready before which aroused all the insecurity he obviously has.. Now, I only responded "I am not with anybody, I'm good, you didn't know what you wanted, that is it." Haven't gotten a response yet.. He called me over 30 times and texted me a lot this morning from 6 am to 8am. And then some more today at 12 which is when I replied to him. Can you offer some insight? Should I still have hope he is processing my response? Or is he done? Any advice is welcome! Thank you!
Limbo21 Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 I'm sorry but it's over.... He is hurt and is lashing out. Don't try to interprete his actions as trying to get back together. He obviously loves/cares love and is reacting I'm sorry you lied. That's why it's over. I'm qualified to have an informed opinion on this matter. You and I know he can truly never trust you - I don't want to hurt you - quite the opposite. I'm trying to get you to drop any hope you may hold and understand its over. Read the nc guide and stick to it. I'm pleased you've learnt your lesson. Don't do it on the next relationship Good luck and keep us posted
Tiera D Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 he is just trying to unleash his anger and whatever bitter emotion on you,i did that with my ex its very normal response.Once he got over that emotion he wont bother you awhile until he has the urge to lash out on you again.Agree with above poster,without trust there is no relationship,move on and dont use NC as a manipulation to get your ex back in the end you will realized you wasted more time and get nothing in return TD
Tiera D Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 he is just trying to unleash his anger and whatever bitter emotion on you,i did that with my ex its very normal response.Once he got over that emotion he wont bother you awhile until he has the urge to lash out on you again.Agree with above poster,without trust there is no relationship,move on and dont use NC as a manipulation to get your ex back in the end you will realized you wasted more time and get nothing in return TD
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