MontanaGirl Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 I've been on and off with a guy for three years now. We broke up over the same things each time-- things I needed and he couldn't/wouldn't give to me--which basically boil down to me wanting a commitment (calling ourselves a couple, openly dating such that our coworkers would know, spending nights together, distancing himself from his ex girlfriend a little) and him being too commitment-phobic to give that to me. It was a cycle: I would move away, he'd get scared of losing me and make promises to give me the things I needed. When we would get back together, he'd either say we were moving too fast or have some reason not to follow through on his promises. We were constantly pushing and pulling, and as a result we both did many very hurtful things. We took these last 6 months to think about things, agreeing not to date anyone else during that time. It wasn't meant to last so long, it just kept getting stretched out longer and longer. We saw each other almost every day, though--he's like family to me, especially since neither of us know many people in our city. Finally he came to me offering everything I wanted. It feels different to me this time, like maybe he actually would give me the things I asked for. I just don't know. Part of me wants to run back to his arms, and the other part wants to run for the hills. We were never perfect, but when we were good we were amazing. I have never felt so torn in two before. I told him I couldn't start a relationship with him right now, because of all the doubt I feel. Is that a huge mistake? Is there such a thing as "too late" when someone you love wants to give you everything that you hoped for for such a long time?
irin Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 sometimes when you long for something so much, ask for it for so long it can take away all your energy, and that thing that you needed so much loses its meaning, yes i believe there is such thing as 'Too late'
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