Imajerk17 Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 What an interesting morning. I was out getting my morning coffee, and walking down the street (on the other side) was one amazingly pretty girl. WOW. I was drawn to the curves of her body as she walked down the street in a sundress and flip-flops. She seems to have a nice energy too. So I high-tailed it across the street to talk to her. Turns out that she was in town to visit her cousin, and that she lives a few hours away. We have a nice conversation and we exchange numbers anyway. (I should also mention that she is 1" taller than I am and 10 years younger....) I don't know if anything will come out of this particular one but I am still happy. Tourist season in our town has only started. This should be one crazy summer... 6
Cracker Jack Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Man, this is exactly my point. You go for what you want. Most of us would've weighed the possible outcomes in approaching, but you, nah. You just saw a cutie and went for her regardless. Nice going, bro. If more dudes can assimilate such an attitude, they'd be unstoppable. This is the perfect time to let go of the fear and start making approaches. They're all out here. 3
Badsingularity Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 lol at the thread title. To the guys who are scared to do this. Do it anyway. That's how you learn. 2
somedude81 Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Any details on what your opening line was, how the conversation went and how you got her number?
Author Imajerk17 Posted June 10, 2012 Author Posted June 10, 2012 (edited) Any details on what your opening line was, how the conversation went and how you got her number? Sure. "Hey I saw you walking and I had to... dash across the street..." [laugh] "to meet you. I'm Jerk." "So what are you up to?" At this point all I had to do was just talk to her like a normal person. No PUA stuff. Then I told her I wanted to talk to her again. and she happily gave me her number. Now keep in mind that I am relaxed and friendly. If I were nervous and it was visible, I would admit it. [i've done this before.] Edited June 10, 2012 by Imajerk17 1
somedude81 Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Sure. "Hey I saw you walking and I had to... dash across the street..." [laugh] "to meet you. I'm Jerk." "So what are you up to?" At this point all I had to do was just talk to her like a normal person. No PUA stuff. Then I told her I wanted to talk to her again. and she happily gave me her number. Now keep in mind that I am relaxed and friendly. If I were nervous and it was visible, I would admit it. [i've done this before.] Would you consider yourself good looking? Average height? I can imagine myself walking up to a girl I see on campus "Hey, I saw you walking and I had to come talk to you." *she looks at me awkwardly* "So what are you up to?" I ask. "I got out of class." "Cool, what class did you finish?" "Math." -------------- Do I need to point out how awkward this conversation is? How she's just wishing I would leave her alone?
Author Imajerk17 Posted June 10, 2012 Author Posted June 10, 2012 (edited) I'm 5'7" decent looking but well into my 30's. My comments on what to say IF SHE IS BEING NON-RESPONSIVE are in bold. Would you consider yourself good looking? Average height? I can imagine myself walking up to a girl I see on campus "Hey, I saw you walking and I had to come talk to you." *she looks at me awkwardly* "Oh wow, you totally have the playing hard-to-get-thing down huh. I like you already!!" "So what are you up to?" I ask. "I got out of class." "Cool, what class did you finish?" "Math." "Maybe you can tutor me. I flunked addition in 2nd grade." -------------- Do I need to point out how awkward this conversation is? How she's just wishing I would leave her alone? Who the fcvk cares? If she keeps being non-responsive just walk away. And who knows why she is. She could have gotten into a fight with her best friend, she could be shy. As long as you're respectful it's not your problem. Your mission is to find the girls who are friendly and responsive, and along the way, you will have to talk to a lot of girls who are not. Edited June 10, 2012 by Imajerk17 1
somedude81 Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 And that's the what really matters. I can't come up with those clever responses on the spot like how you did in the bold. I would just have awkward conversation after awkward conversation and it would destroy my confidence. A girl isn't going to make it easy on me so I would have to be completely responsible for what happens, and I would get mad at myself for not being able to make it work. Believe me, I would love to be able to up to a hot girl, and know what to say to her and how to handle various situations to get her number or an insta-date. But it just seems beyond what I'm able to do right now.
Cracker Jack Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 You can talk to hot women and attract them. Yes, you can actually do it. You just have to actually try it. There's NO perfect time for you to do this. And the only way for you to learn how to be sharp in those situations is by putting yourself in those situations to get better. I don't see how you'd improve without practicing. How else are you expecting to better yourself? Honest question.
Badsingularity Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 I would just have awkward conversation after awkward conversation and it would destroy my confidence. Fear. You have to do it anyway. The only thing that would allow it to destroy your confidence is your own brain. You can decide to let it build your confidence instead by acknowledging the fact that you did something brave. A girl isn't going to make it easy on me so I would have to be completely responsible for what happens, and I would get mad at myself for not being able to make it work. Decide with your brain, to not get mad at yourself. Your brain is more powerful than you might think. You can literally teach it to think differently and control how you feel when things happen to you.
somedude81 Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 You can talk to hot women and attract them. Yes, you can actually do it. You just have to actually try it. There's NO perfect time for you to do this. And the only way for you to learn how to be sharp in those situations is by putting yourself in those situations to get better. I don't see how you'd improve without practicing. How else are you expecting to better yourself? Honest question. How do you think I know that the conversations will turn out awkward? I'm not just guessing here. Fear. You have to do it anyway. The only thing that would allow it to destroy your confidence is your own brain. You can decide to let it build your confidence instead by acknowledging the fact that you did something brave. It would be great if I could do that. But I hold myself to a very high standard and it wouldn't improve my confidence because I know it's something that I can do already. I know that I can go to the beach right now, and randomly approach five girls. But I wouldn't get any confidence boost because I know it is something that I can do. It's not really an accomplishment to me. And as I said before, having a bad conversation would actually lower my confidence. Decide with your brain, to not get mad at yourself. Your brain is more powerful than you might think. You can literally teach it to think differently and control how you feel when things happen to you. That's what I need to work on. I need to train my brain.
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 lol at the thread title. To the guys who are scared to do this. Do it anyway. That's how you learn. Not quite ready to. I need a job/money and my own place first.
Badsingularity Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 And as I said before, having a bad conversation would actually lower my confidence. Like I said. Only if you let it. what I need to work on. I need to train my brain. It can be done, but only with a lot of practice. Practice= Talk to,appoach, and ask out a lot more women.
somedude81 Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Like I said. Only if you let it. It can be done, but only with a lot of practice. Practice= Talk to,appoach, and ask out a lot more women. Nooooooo. That's not the kind of training I was talking about. Seriously dude, did you forget that you just said this " Your brain is more powerful than you might think. You can literally teach it to think differently and control how you feel when things happen to you."
Badsingularity Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 (edited) Nooooooo. That's not the kind of training I was talking about. Seriously dude, did you forget that you just said this " Your brain is more powerful than you might think. You can literally teach it to think differently and control how you feel when things happen to you." You have to put yourself in those positions to start retraining your brain. Edited June 10, 2012 by Badsingularity
Author Imajerk17 Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 (edited) She came back into town and we hung out this weekend. Life is sweet when you boldly go for what you want. Edited January 27, 2013 by Imajerk17
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Would you consider yourself good looking? Average height? I can imagine myself walking up to a girl I see on campus "Hey, I saw you walking and I had to come talk to you." *she looks at me awkwardly* "So what are you up to?" I ask. "I got out of class." "Cool, what class did you finish?" "Math." -------------- Do I need to point out how awkward this conversation is? How she's just wishing I would leave her alone? I would think she is a bitch if she gave you a look. I think it is awesome when a guy approaches me, even if he isn't my type there is no harm in chatting, and if I think he would be someone that even slightly could be entertaining to speak to I would give him a chance. Just saying... I think that situation you just presented was a good one. It would be cute! You know what you do if some bitch makes a face like that? You say "Well I was going to ask if I could take you out for coffee but that pole shoved up your ass is making it difficult. Have a good one!"
somedude81 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I would think she is a bitch if she gave you a look. I think it is awesome when a guy approaches me, even if he isn't my type there is no harm in chatting, and if I think he would be someone that even slightly could be entertaining to speak to I would give him a chance. Just saying... I think that situation you just presented was a good one. It would be cute! You know what you do if some bitch makes a face like that? You say "Well I was going to ask if I could take you out for coffee but that pole shoved up your ass is making it difficult. Have a good one!" Wow this thread is a blast from the past. Ok, what if she didn't give me any particular look, but the conversation went the same exact way? Just to spice it up, I'll modify it a bit. For the stories sake, she is single though I don't know that. ---------------- "Hey, I saw you walking and I had to come talk to you." "Uh, hi." "So what are you up to?" I ask. "I got out of class." "Cool, what class did you finish?" "Math." "Can I take you out to coffee?" -------------- Guess her response 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Yeah cold conversations rarely go well. They're usually very awkward and go nowhere.
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Wow this thread is a blast from the past. Ok, what if she didn't give me any particular look, but the conversation went the same exact way? Just to spice it up, I'll modify it a bit ---------------- "Hey, I saw you walking and I had to come talk to you." "Uh, hi." "So what are you up to?" I ask. "I got out of class." "Cool, what class did you finish?" "Math." "Can I take you out to coffee?" -------------- Guess her response Oh I like this game? I know this is is SUPER lame, but I really think in order to successfully cold approach you need to be pretty adamant, AND willing to do what it takes to get a yes. First step? GET THE DATE. You know the movie hitch? Yeah, it really is kind of like that! Not always, but it is definitely a good example. How you approach is a big thing, you are on campus? Great, see her walking? Stroll up and walk next to her. Perfectly match her pace [this all needs to be done right though because you never know when she will need to go.] Then once she notices, and is a little weirded out, SMILE, let her know it is friendly and not creepy. Then ask where are WE going? After you get a response it is all about gauging how she is feeling, still guarded, keep talking, if you have to, walk with her the ENTIRE way. Find out who the teacher is, find out as much as possible, you will KNOW if she starts warming up, and if you are entertaining enough [which you will be just for following] and she will tell you to leave her alone if she wants you to. Then bring up seeing her again. Think of something creative and fun, and make it so that you have it planned out. I hate when men don't have a plan. Say a date, say a time, say a place. Ask her on the date before the number, the number will come if she says yes. Now, if she says no, this is the fun part. Say something that will make her REGRET not saying yes. If she is being flirty by now, but saying no, its the perfect time to bring up what class she is going to and mentioning how you will try again later. The cool thing about this is that you can either follow through if you REALLY want to take her out, or you can just forget her. OK, so this is a dream scenario, and it won't always work, but I could SO see this playing out well. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 This sounds like it's more likely to work in a movie. In real life it doesn't end with a date. Rather, it ends with a call to campus security...
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 This sounds like it's more likely to work in a movie. In real life it doesn't end with a date. Rather, it ends with a call to campus security... No. It doesn't. Women love **** like this. Why do you think we watch all those movies, we WANT something like that to happen to us! Just try it, and you know what? If you end up in the hands of security I will personally talk to them and let them know that it was all my fault.
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Not to mention that if she is REALLY wierded out, she will TELL YOU to go away.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Wow this thread is a blast from the past. Ok, what if she didn't give me any particular look, but the conversation went the same exact way? Just to spice it up, I'll modify it a bit. For the stories sake, she is single though I don't know that. ---------------- "Hey, I saw you walking and I had to come talk to you." "Uh, hi." "So what are you up to?" I ask. "I got out of class." "Cool, what class did you finish?" "Math." "Can I take you out to coffee?" -------------- Guess her response I was just in a Fatburger on the main strip of a huge college town on one of their party nights a few weeks ago. Two fairly attractive women were sitting by the window. Two different groups of guys went in and started talking to them just by seeing them in the window. And these guys had chutzpah and game and they eventually blew them off. Another two girls were walking down the street ahead of me as I headed to my car. A guy came out of nowhere and started chatting them up. These guys have courage and game far ahead of you. I'm not saying it can't work, but the odds are very low. It's akin to playing the lottery. You have to be in that mindset to try 100 times to get maybe one phone number that might not turn into anything.
EasyHeart Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 That kind of cold approach is awkward because it's BORING. Would you talk to a friend like that? More to the point, would you buy anything from a salesman who talked to you like that. If you want to try cold-approaching women you need to have a rap. You need to entertain and intrigue her with an interactive monologue of some sort that has her cracking up. Think of yourself as an entertainer: if you make her laugh you are halfway there. And if you're on a college campus and can count on seeing her again, do NOT ask her out on the first approach. You talk to her and then you LEAVE. Every entertainer knows that "You always leave them wanting more". The same goes for women: you intrigue them and then you LEAVE. That way she is thinking about you afterwards and probably looking for you the next time you see her. But you've got to be interesting. You're not interrogating her, you're intriguing her.
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