truffelo Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Hello, To make the introduction short: I'm 25, my gf(6 years) broke up with me 3 months ago I started to get in contact with some old friends, hang out a lot. One night i had a long conversation with a girl that I knew since i was 14 ( one of the best friends of my former ex) about my break up and suddenly she said her bf broke up with her too a few days earlier but she hadn't talked about it with no one. So Ok, first evening was very intense. We talked for hours about our issues. We aggreed to continue our conversation. Before i knew, I saw or heard her every day. We called, went to concerts together, cooked diner, took walks trough the park etc... the first days we only talked about our problems with the break up, but after some days we started talking about everything. She said things like " it's the first time I'm having such good conversations with anyone" and " I'm so surprised how sweet you can be" etc.... So one day I started realizing that this girl was always in my head. My ex started contacting me again but I didn't care. I thought about this new girl all the time. I wanted to know how she was, what she was doing, etc... I started realizing that I was happier than I was in years and I started to fall in love. I realized that I would better wait to tell her untill i was sure and untill her ex was out of her head too. I felt extremely happy. I noticed that for the first time in my life i was really fascinated when i was talking to a girl (normally i talk 75 % of the time during conversations with other people , now it was like 25%). I wanted to know all her adventures, things about her studies, family etc. Sometimes she sent me messages the day after we met to say how excited she was about one of our evenings... So this week (tuesday) I asked if she could come to my place and I'd cook for her. She seemed very enthousiastic. I was very nervous but once she was here, again we talked all night ( she was here for like 6 hours). It were very intense conversations... She said she had the feeling she wasn't thinking about her ex that much and she didn't want him back. She said all sorts of things she never said anyone before. We laughed, cried, it was a very intense but fun evening. She asked what was the reason I looked so happy... and i couldn't lie and said : I'm so happy because i fell in love with someone. She wanted to know who but I said i'd tell her later. But the day after I realized that wasn't honest of me because she showed all her deepest emotions to me and I was hiding this huge thing ( the fact she was that girl). That evening I saw her again because we were going to a movie along with other friends. I couldn't act normal to her. At the end of the evening i asked her if we could have a talk and she said she was too tired. The next day I had this feeling i had to tell her so I wrote her a mail, telling that i couldn't tell the name because the girl i was thinking about was sitting right in front of me. I also told that our friendship ment a lot to me and I didn't want to put pressure on her, i just wanted her to be happy. So she sent me a long, honest email, telling me she didn't understand why things come this way. And that she didn't even had the space to think about it because she still didn't understand her break up and she's in a very stressfull period for her studies. She said she doubted if i was really in love and she told that she now doesn't feel the need to talk about all her issues with me because it would be too akward. We will talk about it next week. I regret the way this went so much because i want to be there for her. I think about her every second and there's something in me that want's to fight to show her that I will make her happy if she gives me the chance. But I realize that it probably will be easier to regain our friendship and I really don't want to lose her. What do you guys think about this? All I want is her to be happy but I'm so sure I could help her with that
no_radar Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 I feel for ya dude, I had same situation with the last girl I hooked up with, she was on the rebound, we used to discuss all our problems and have deep conversations and I thought about her all the time. I did the same kind of thing as you with the writing mail to tell her how much I liked her, and wanted to make her happy again. She replied in the same kind of way as your girl but we continued to see and sleep with each other, only problem is I fell for her and she didnt see anything relationship wise in all of it. Lets just say it all ended badly, mainly for me. Cut and run is my advice. This will only end badly and mainly for you.
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