EmergenC Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 (edited) So i'm about 6 months out from my break. Me just turned 30 her just turned 21. If you want a more thorough breakdown check my post history. But in essence. 3.5 years relationship, more like 4 since we hit it off the moment we met. I was her first boyfriend/true love/sex/kissing whatever...all of it. Anyway, she broke up with me. No cheating or abuse, plucked her from a small town, took her to the big city and on adventures/holidays you name it. She came to my home country and together we shared many memories/road-trips etc etc. Arguing started a little the last 6 - 8 months of our time together as she made her first real group of friends and I felt myself becoming more of an option. She became best friends with an absolute prize b*tch of a woman who my friends in my home town all steer clear of. She is a class 1 user of men. Uses sex and whatever to get her own way and things that she wants blah blah, just not a nice person. Anyway, then the facebook flirting behind my back etc etc started with all these new guys suddenly vying for her attention now she had her eyes blown open with a new social circle. Now at 6 months out from the breakup and about 4 months of solid NC - Contact was only broken once or twice over emails when she contacted me. Well she has recently come crashing down off the pedestal I put her on and lately I have found she is on my mind a lot more mixed in with a lot of anger. A large chunk of that I have found is from the way she handled the breakup. Literally cutting me out cold and going off. No closure talk, dumped by a text message. The time I saw her a week after the breakup to collect her things, all the talk was about her her her. Nothing to do with emotions. And then nothing. Gone and dusted. Brushed off like I was a piece of fallen leaf on her shoulder. I could honestly understand IF I was a cheat or i'd physically harmed her, but none of that ever happened in our relationship, i'm not that kind of person. I'm finding it hard to get around the anger and get my mind back to how it was the last month when it felt truly like there was light at the end of the tunnel and I was doing fine. I find myself trying hard to understand. How she could go from absolute rainbows coming out her butt, where I was the center of her world. Living together as a couple each and everyday. Showing her so many new experiences and adventures. Told that I was her best friend and to lose me would be to lose the love of her life and best friend all rolled into one. How do I get my head around this ? Is it her age ? Was I fooled for 4 years and this soft super super delicate and sensitive person is actually a heartless monster inside ? Is it that now she's moved to a totally new town and completely new social circle, possibly new boyfriend I don't know any more...is it just that she has entirely replaced me and i'm now surplus to requirements ? Is that really the long and short of it ? Edited June 10, 2012 by EmergenC
TripLine Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Well you got with her when she was 17. I hope you were not naive enough to think a 17 year old could have fallen in love, since she was from a small town and have not seen much yet. She came to the city saw what the city had to offer, she saw the need for independence, to meet new people, and be a "TEENAGER". Just like when you were 21, you were looking at anything with tits. I would say it is kind of your fault for not choosing someone your age who has the same mindset and experience that you have. She probably saw you as someone who can buy her things and show her around.
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