Thatguy80 Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 I recently met a girl that I felt I really have chemistry with. Before our 1st date, we talked many times on the phone (3-5 hours usually, late into the night) and texted constantly. I usually don't like that, but with her it was cool. Our first date was about 6-7 hours and was really fun. We were laughing pretty much the whole time, both of us initiated a lot of physical contact throughout the day and the "goodbye" turned into more of a makeout session. Everything seemed totally natural and I had no question that day about if she was into me or not. She texted me to let me know she got home safely and said "I had fun today!". I said "me too" to which she replied teasing me about making it sound like it was just ok for me...lol. Ever since then, the contact has gone way down. She'll still initiate contact with me, just not as much and she'll follow up with another text if I don't reply back within 3-4 hours usually. Her texts have gotten shorter too. I did break down and ask "Do you want to continue talking? You seem distant now." She had started a class on Monday, so she goes from work to class everyday and she had a vacation this weekend. She reminded me about those and said she's been busy. I figured that I'm too into this girl so I took another girl out last night. Even though she was very attractive with a pretty good personality, I just could not get into her at all. It sucks! In my experiences, if a girl pulls back, even if she claims she's busy, she's just not into me. I'll admit that I have pulled back some, but she had been the persuer in this the whole time and I would respond. There is a part of me that just wants to run away! Usually I'm just lukewarm going into something and pretty indifferent, but sometimes one comes along that really gets to me and I overanalyze everything. I don't want to go into "persuit mode" cause that's usually a bad idea. I really hate dating lol.... Anyone have any insight? Thanks!
FitChick Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 She may be thinking it was too much too soon and doesn't want you getting bored quickly or pressuring her into sex too soon. Just make an effort to spend more real time with her. Start sending her ideas for your next date, i.e. "Here is Option A for our next date ________. Let me know the best day and time for you. If you don't like that idea, I've got Options B, C and D! Can't wait to see you again."
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