Yeahsussu Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 So, I never thought I would do this whole online dating thing, but here I am.. I created an account two days ago and I immediately saw this interesting guy that lives quite close to me. He had a really nice profile picture and also a second picture where you can see he has quite a good looking body. Anyways, we´ve been chatting for two days and he is a really nice, funny guy to talk to. I got his name and looked him up on facebook... Hmm, big dissapointment!! His profile pic on facebook looks nothing like the one he had on this online site. Well, I could tell it was the same person, but he obviously chose his best angles for the dating site! This probably sounds quite shallow, but I rekon that´s what online dating is to begin with. I don´t feel that interested in him anymore due to those pics on facebook... :/ Or am I a really bad person now?
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 It's the nature of the beast that is online dating. People are going to misrepresent themselves in a myriad of ways.
Vintage79 Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Hot one place, not the other? It depends on how fixated you are on looks. Regardless, if someone doesn't put their best (hopefully recent) pic on their online dating profile, I'd be a bit concerned. As such, however, a lot of people look better in real life than they do in their pictures (and obviously, the converse is also true). It's possible that his online dating pic is representative, and those on facebook are bad angles, off the cuff, etc. Truth is, you just don't know until you see him in real life. If he had anything going for him other than his looks, I'd definitively give him a whirl - he may be very good looking. If you start rejecting everyone based on the concern of, "he may not be as good looking in real life as he is in his picture), expect to be single for a while, or at least online dating to be an ineffective medium. If you're concerned about his looks, just meet him for a coffee date - you can easily get out of those in 30 minutes or less, and if you try to run away in that time period, he'll hopefully take the hint, so you won't hear from him again. I've gotten out of coffee dates in ~15 minutes when women don't look like their online profile.
LittleTiger Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 He could look completely different again in real life. You obviously enjoy talking to him and you like the way he looks in some of his photos, so what have you got to lose by arranging to meet him so you can find out for sure if there is anything worth pursuing? I don't think you are a 'bad person' for losing interest because you don't like his pictures on facebook, but I do think you are being a little foolish. Real people are animated and multi-dimensional, photographs on the internet are not - you could be missing out on a good thing if you let a few facebook photos put you off.
Author Yeahsussu Posted June 10, 2012 Author Posted June 10, 2012 Yeah you are right guys, I might be quite foolish to just make up my mind based on some photos on facebook, it makes me feel quite shallow. It´s just that I can´t really connect the two "versions" of photos, he looks really masculine on the dating site and on facebook he looks like a kid, haha. And he´s 30 years old.. He´s asking me out for a cup of coffee so I might just give it a go...
phineas Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 As long as there isn't an age or weight discrepancy between photo's it's game on for me. some people just don't take consistently good pictures & are clueless about which one's actually look good & use the wrong one's. Facebook is facebook. Nobody I have on there takes their profile pic too seriously.
Author Yeahsussu Posted June 10, 2012 Author Posted June 10, 2012 I don´t wanna be too fixated on looks, but I just got a bit put off by his facebook pics, but as phineas said, facebook is facebook... I´ve never done this online dating before so I don´t really know how these things work, as for now I´m not too impressed But I´ll give it a go..
gaius Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Maybe the barista will be more photogenic. Never know what can happen when going out to meet someone.
amantis Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 I have facebook and some months ago i started old . I can tell you that the photos that i have on facebook are from 6 months ago , now i lost 15 kilos , and i used the new photos for the old . Do i look different ? yes i look , but facebook is just for friends and family , they dont care if im ugly or not ( im not saying that im ugly ) but when you are a man , you have to use the best photos that you have on old I even look more different when i meet them and they look very impressed , so , give him a chance and see him face to face and if you dont like him , you move on .
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