Crumplefish Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Hello all, I am 22 and I was born with Cerebral Palsy. I am cognitively normal in terms of speech and critical thinking, but I am confined to a wheelchair and have difficulty with fine motor-skills i.e. tying shoes, or fastening buttons. I have had one girlfriend in my life, but it didn't last very long as she became "bored" because I couldn't necessarily do what she wanted. That was two years ago, so needless to say, I'm over it. My problem is simply, I feel inadequate to other men who are not disabled. I get looks of disgust for just saying "hi" which is VERY disheartening. That, and women seem to look at me and think "Oh gosh, am I going to have to take of him? which I can understand to a point, and sure I need assistance with some stuff, but ultimately I've become very independent. I guess I feel a little bitter, to the point where I think "Why even bother? I'm broken, defective." Horrible mindset, I know, some days are worse than others. I just desire a relationship, but I don't know how to get passed feeling like I'm inadequate. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
LittlePrince Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 I thought this was going to be about clown porn.
Bristolius Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 As the little prince has shown, this sometimes is not a very nice place to ask for support. I think you've got a challenge for sure. Maybe the best option is to be around and involved with lots of people. Try to build a rich social life. Be friendly without worrying too much about how others react. You never know who you're going to meet next. It's sort of cheap advice but I think it's good. It's what I'm trying to do myself and even if I don't meet someone special, I'll be at least fending off loneliness.
LittlePrince Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 There is a certain kind of loneliness all the friends in the world won't cure which can only be satisfied by a SO.
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