when a guy suggests taking things slow and break. what does this mean?

[quess]

i've been dating a guy for a month and we had quite a big fight the last time we met - mostly because he was rushing everything while i'm a girl who takes things slow. i know his feelings were strong for me but now that he's ignoring my calls, i guess he is no longer as interested. we both ended up with hurt feelings as we traded some nasty words. i know i hurt him deeply and i'm feeling so very apologetic.

 

so a few days after we last met, i knew he wouldn't meet or answer my call so i sent him a really sincere apology email for my actions and that i'd work to fix any problems there are. then i asked him to clarify as to whether or not we still have a chance or if he wants to end things with me altogether. i said i really need to know now and i'll leave him be.

 

he got back to my email a few days later, thanking me for my considerate words and that he's read my letter multiple times. he wrote he is also willing to work on the problems but does think there will be a barrier in our communication. he wrote that it may be best if we took things slow and take a rest.

 

by some odd coincidence, at the time he sent that email, i sent a voicemail. i dropped all my pride and left a voicemail apologizing and that i'm so regretful. i said i'd like to see him again in the near future, and that i miss him and like him a lot. everything was done in a non-threatening manner so i didn't suffocate him or call obsessively. i wrote an email and called twice, leaving one voicemail. that's it. all i wanted for him to know was how i felt about him and how apologetic i am.

 

i'm assuming this means he wants to quit at this, correct? this is so confusing because there's no timeframe and if he wants to break up, why not just write that? he tends to be a straightforward guy so i'm not sure why he wants to sugarcoat things by writing stuff like this. i really want to move on but i keep hanging onto a bit of hope that he may one day return. i'm such an idiot.

 

it doesn't seem right to ask what he means. if he wants a rest, i suppose i should just stop all contact and grant his wish. he was such a great guy and i've never had anyone like me this much before. can't believe i screwed up.

[Balzac]

What exactly is there to break up in a 30 day relationship? I must be missing something.

[shayla]

It's called the Hot and Cold game.

Don't waste your time with him.

[Daniel5987]

He's just trying to control you, I wouldn't waste your time either to be honest.

[DuchessKaye]

My god, you just wrote the story of my life!

Let him go, move on and don't look back...

[dbave]

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/329920-ex-girlfriend-wont-let-me-go

 

Fix your own **** Daniel before you go off recommending relationship advice to others...