Nearly had a casual encounter this week - is it the way to go the 1st time??

[SmileFace]

Way to go Who, hi fives all around.

<-----This is starting the rumor!

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Of course Who never said it happened, but this is exactly how rumors start

 

All it takes is one person to say something unclear and another to misinterpret it.

I only asked for clarification.

[cerridwen]

I only asked for clarification.

 

Yes, it happened.

Spread the word.

[SmileFace]

Yes, it happened.

Spread the word.

"Tell the press!!"

(teehee)

[somedude81]

Yes, it happened.

Spread the word.

For truth or more rumors?

[ThaWholigan]

Sounds more sabotaging than maternal. You leave her a note and she still rings your phone off the hook because you've been gone a little while? Like a jealous girlfriend.

 

Well, it was 4am and she was asleep when I left. She didn't even see the note (), until I answered the phone. She's a very over-protective mum, and through me being the child that had learning difficulties growing up, she has a tendency to fuss every now and then.

 

Fortunately she isn't always like this, and she does trust me a hell of a lot more now that I am an adult.

 

Surprised you don't get more casual offers. You know how to talk to women based on your posts here.

 

Haven't always put myself in the exact social situations that would facilitate offers. Sure, I'm a lot more social than is expected through taking certain risks socially. A lot of times I have embarrassed myself, but generally I get an easier ride because I don't sweat it like I used to as an adolescent. Girls find it endearing apparently, and are pleasantly surprised when they find out that once you get past the initial awkwardness, I am actually completely different to what they expect. Gets them every time

 

Problem is, I have long periods where I put my entire social life to sleep and live like a hermit and as a result, I don't meet as much girls as I should. Sometimes being social all the time drains me mentally, even though I love being around people. Even though I'm very high functioning to the point of basically a normal dude, I still get the side effects of Autism, like sensory overloads, nervous tics and the occasional echolalic episode. On 1 very rare occasion, I've even had an angry meltdown!

 

I do tend to keep in contact with selected people in my network, but I will quite happily stay reclusive for a few weeks at a time.

 

I don't know why I wrote all of that above, I'm going a mile a minute tonight . Basically to give a proper reply, to get to the point where I could talk to girls when I was social, required me to get out of my head and be present in a conversation with a girl. That means no anxious thoughts, no routine questions, or thinking what to say or over-analyzing her words - just straight up conversation, that goes anywhere. That way, I never miss an opportunity to take the conversation to a sexual direction, sometimes without even saying anything sexual . I just give the impression that I might just do that, and girls will take it there themselves sometimes! I only learned that by accident - from taking risks in conversations, even being inappropriate at times due to my overly direct manner.

 

 

[ThaWholigan]

And like he said, she probably wouldn't have offered herself up on a platter if he'd approached her on chat with a loser's mentality.

 

I have met, chatted, and e-mailed with dozens of guys over the past few months. Regardless of appearance, money, job, or any other factors, there is one factor that always sends a guy soaring to the top: a winner's mentality. Not a cocky, arrogant attitude - that's transparent and unattractive. A calm, confident, patient winner's attitude.

 

ThaWholigan has this, and it's a very big part of what makes him appealing, I'm sure.

 

That's awfully high praise, I don't know if that's what makes me appealing . I just think it's because I'm tall, black and walk like a movie star .

 

Ah, got the ass on tap now.

 

Good work, my friend.

 

And the irony is that I didn't even try . It's gonna be a good summer

 

Wait did it happen? What did I miss?

I feel like a proud older cousin or something...hehe

 

Nothing........yet

[LittlePrince]

Good. Then you don't have to worry about them then! .

But you do because there are too many of them and not enough decent ones.

[pteromom]

Your encounter would have been the stuff of good memories in years to come, a chance encounter with a pretty girl who is not drunk and horny and wants you now!

 

I agree! I look back on my casual encounters fondly. Other than a couple that didn't go as planned, but even those are funny stories. Sex is fun, whether it's in a loving relationship, or a passionate evening with a stranger.

 

If you end up sleeping with this girl, just make sure the condom stays on tight. She sounds very high-risk for STDs. But she also sounds like someone who isn't going to become a clinger after sleeping together, so you could just enjoy sex with no strings.

[pteromom]

That's awfully high praise, I don't know if that's what makes me appealing . I just think it's because I'm tall, black and walk like a movie star .

 

Nah. You are articulate and good at communicating feelings without coming across as wimpy or arrogant. You are just you, and that IS appealing.

[ThaWholigan]

But you do because there are too many of them and not enough decent ones.

There are a few things in my life that I could be worrying about. That won't be one of them .

 

There is barely anything I actually do worry about these days.

[ThaWholigan]

I agree! I look back on my casual encounters fondly. Other than a couple that didn't go as planned, but even those are funny stories. Sex is fun, whether it's in a loving relationship, or a passionate evening with a stranger.

 

If you end up sleeping with this girl, just make sure the condom stays on tight. She sounds very high-risk for STDs. But she also sounds like someone who isn't going to become a clinger after sleeping together, so you could just enjoy sex with no strings.

 

I think it's definitely worth considering. I think Carhill said the same thing earlier in that next time an opportunity comes along I should take it. I think I will next time.

 

Nah. You are articulate and good at communicating feelings without coming across as wimpy or arrogant. You are just you, and that IS appealing.

 

Thank you . I'm fortunate to be able to use my ability to detach constructively, which is why I can talk and think the way I do.

[Feelsgoodman]

It just so happens, she's an indian girl with a black girl's ass and a black man fetish. There were a few red flags that I did ignore on the way there until I actually went to meet her. The first one was if I wanted to go bareback (I declined). The second was if I was bringing any of my mates (Again, I said no). When I actually met up with her, she said she was pleasantly surprised when I said I'm not bringing friends as "black guys I know normally bring their friends". That's the point where I knew something was up with this chick, and I started to change my mind about it all.

Man, those are not even red flags...they are more like military warning signs, you know the ones with the skull and bones, warning you that you're about to step into a minefield and blow your @ss off. If this chick has a fetish for being gangbanged by a bunch of black dudes while going bareback, she is literally a quarantine zone. Who knows what you could have caught from that girl (condoms are not foolproof, as I'm sure you know).

[ThaWholigan]

Man, those are not even red flags...they are more like military warning signs, you know the ones with the skull and bones, warning you that you're about to step into a minefield and blow your @ss off. If this chick has a fetish for being gangbanged by a bunch of black dudes while going bareback, she is literally a quarantine zone. Who knows what you could have caught from that girl (condoms are not foolproof, as I'm sure you know).

Believe me, you have no idea how many girls I've met of all races who are what they call "battery chicks". Some like white guys only, some like black guys only, others don't care. They're quite happy to let guys come either on their own or with friends to have sex. One of my brothers used to know a few and had sex with them. Sometimes he offers to bring me, but I don't really want an audience for my first time .

 

My next door neighbour (who is a bitch ), used to be one of those girls. She liked white guys, and used to let them run trains on her more than once back in the day. I have no respect for that girl, because she's very rude and has attacked my mother physically before. I don't dislike many people, but I dislike her.

[ascendotum]

^^ lol. that would have been going through a lot of guys mind (how horny or desperate or drunk or beautiful the girl all feeds into the descision process), still we have these wonderful drugs called antibiotics now. Would be a bummer to get the clap on your first time though.

[Feelsgoodman]

You don't want to lose your V like that....you want your first time to be with someone you really like

Meh. Your first time is not going to be all that great regardless of who you do it with.

[ThaWholigan]

^^ lol. that would have been going through a lot of guys mind (how horny or desperate or drunk or beautiful the girl all feeds into the descision process), still we have these wonderful drugs called antibiotics now. Would be a bummer to get the clap on your first time though.

It only cropped up when I actually met her in person. It's like the whole journey there, my penis took over .

 

Nothing's been ruled out though. I've finished a large part of my business plan so I have some free time. I've had quite a few messages online since this happened (strange isn't it ), and I'm gonna reinvigorate my social circle again. Things can happen. And anyway, if all else fails, I still have this girl's number

[Feelsgoodman]

My next door neighbour (who is a bitch ), used to be one of those girls. She liked white guys, and used to let them run trains on her more than once back in the day. I have no respect for that girl, because she's very rude and has attacked my mother physically before. I don't dislike many people, but I dislike her.

The chick sounds like a class act...lol. As for "battery girls", it must be a UK thing. That sort of behaviour does not seem to be very prevalent here.

[ThaWholigan]

The chick sounds like a class act...lol. As for "battery girls", it must be a UK thing. That sort of behaviour does not seem to be very prevalent here.

It's not that common, but I come from an environment that is inherently urban, as most working class areas are. So that's the dealers, the hood youths, the chavs, the gypsies etc. I've been around a variety of people because of this, from people who are there by circumstance, to some very dark mother****ers - I'm talking real killers. Real bad boys and bad girls.

 

Because I'm well spoken and I was raised by a strict mum, people don't clock that people such as these were once part of my network. So battery girls aren't common, but there are more than a few of them about. Because I've met them, and I've known the guys who have ****ed them.

[somedude81]

Believe me, you have no idea how many girls I've met of all races who are what they call "battery chicks". Some like white guys only, some like black guys only, others don't care. They're quite happy to let guys come either on their own or with friends to have sex. One of my brothers used to know a few and had sex with them. Sometimes he offers to bring me, but I don't really want an audience for my first time .

 

My next door neighbour (who is a bitch ), used to be one of those girls. She liked white guys, and used to let them run trains on her more than once back in the day. I have no respect for that girl, because she's very rude and has attacked my mother physically before. I don't dislike many people, but I dislike her.

How the hell do you meet these girls?

 

Somehow I've never known a slutty girl.

[ThaWholigan]

How the hell do you meet these girls?

 

Somehow I've never known a slutty girl.

I have a large social network. Being a musician helps, as does having popular friends.

 

"Slutty" girls are pretty much all different, like most other girls - only clear difference is that they f*ck more than normal, with different guys. They won't always broadcast it to the world - in fact it's the quiet ones who can be the most extreme. I've been to parties, gigs, shows, house parties and gatherings of all sorts where these girls have been around. Usually where there are a lot of guys (who are somewhat known or popular in their circle), they are around.

 

The only reason I don't engage with them much, is because I'm not always around. One of the things I'm known most for in my circles is my elusive nature - I will be there one minute and next minute I'm gone for a while, usually to entertain my other social circles, or simply to stay home and chill when I can't be assed. If I was as dedicated to that side of my network, maybe I would have been with one of them - but I don't know if that's good or bad. I don't necessarily want a bad girl or a goody 2 shoes. A girl with more dynamic, with elements of both is ideal for me .

[somedude81]

Well, I guess that is one reason to have a social circle, knowing slutty girls, or somebody who knows who they are.

[ThaWholigan]

Well, I guess that is one reason to have a social circle, knowing slutty girls, or somebody who knows who they are.

You live in a large state. There are MILLIONS of women in your state alone, more than there is in the UK as a whole probably. There are probably LOADS in your city. You just need to talk to people and invigorate your circle. Find ways to do it, educate yourself.

[SmileFace]

Well, I guess that is one reason to have a social circle, knowing slutty girls, or somebody who knows who they are.

Yes this is why it is good to have friends

[LittlePrince]

Well, I guess that is one reason to have a social circle, knowing slutty girls, or somebody who knows who they are.

You don't need a social circle to safely assume they are and on top of that crazy.

[dasein]

Different spin on this, consider never going into a strange environment on impulse late at night alone. At the very very least, let a couple friends know exactly where you are headed and with whom to the extent you can. Maybe you did this, if so good for you. Also consider not heading into a strange environment with the intent of getting wasted. Was near strangled with a seatbelt, had a gun pulled on me and robbed, nose bloodied, lost my wallet, arrested for public drunk, all on different occasions around your age, together with numerous run o the mill uncomfortable and sketchy situations, before finally learning this lesson. Since you can't bring them home, always have enough money on hand for a decent "neutral ground" hotel room.