gtiboy Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 (edited) Has anyone ever reconciled with someone you dated only to be told it's not going to work and they want to be friends with you..then went no contact only for them to come back? Basically does no contact work in these situations? Edited June 9, 2012 by gtiboy
blotter Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 No contact isn't a manipulation or mind game to get your ex to come back. It is for YOU. It is for you to disengage emotionally from the relationship, start to heal, and move on from the relationship. Your ex may contact you during NC and what you do with that is up to you, although it is usually just breadcrumbs.
radiodarcy Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 i was in a similar situation: he dumped me and said that he still wanted to be friends. i said ok (because at the time i saw it as a "foot in the door") and he ignored me after that. he did come back after a few months; which i took to mean that he wanted to be friends again. but i soon realized in couldn't handle being friends with him because i wasn't over him (listening to him brag about the girls he was dating didn't help). so *i* cut off the friendship and went strict NC. now it's been over a year later and while there has been some contact from him - - we're not friends anymore. and you know - - i can honestly say i'm better off without him in my life - - as a friend or otherwise
Chi townD Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 When a girl or a guy breaks up with you and then states that they want to "remain friends" is only a tactic to relieve themselves from the guilt of hurting you. They don't mean anything by it. They want to convey that they wouldn't mind having you in their life because you are still a "cool guy or gal" just not intimately. It's all selfishly motivated and means nothing other than easing their own guilt from hurting you. Ignore those statements. 2
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