joystickd Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 Did an experience lead you to these beliefs? Do you think they are wrong or right? Are you willing to change them if evidence showed that changing them would improve your situation?
january2011 Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 One of my core beliefs is that I can't do multidating. However, I fall short of saying that multidating is wrong for everyone, even though I don't agree with it. The only thing that matters is that my dating partner agrees with me. It wasn't a particular experience that lead me to the above belief but how I was brought up in terms of how dating should be. And no, I'm not willing to change. I've seen the pros and cons. And the cons far outweigh the pros for me - I also feel that multidating would challenge my core values regarding fairness and fidelity - two areas I'm not willing to compromise on regardless of how my 'situation' might be 'improved'.
Oxy Moronovich Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 One core belief I have is give back as much as you want. If I want a woman in shape with a sociable personality, I should have that to give to her as well. 1
Author joystickd Posted June 9, 2012 Author Posted June 9, 2012 My beliefs are: 1. I am the prize and you should feel honored to spend time with me. ( respond all you like fringe but when you value yourself others will too) 2. I don't give freely it must be earned. 3. Honesty 4. zero tolerance for bad behavior http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/256626-im-just-wondering This particular situation led to this formation of beliefs. When I posted this I was out of that situation but was attempted to be pulled back in. I'm not willing to change them because once I deviate from these beliefs my success goes down. I say they are neither wrong or right. I will admit sometimes I can be a cold blooded a*****e but that is what you get when you deal with someone whose animal that represents them is this http://static.ddmcdn.com/gif/willow/cobra-info0.gif 1
RedRobin Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 (edited) I won't knowingly date multi-daters or men who hold double standards in any area of their lives.... Edited June 9, 2012 by RedRobin
Pierre Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 My beliefs are: 1. I am the prize and you should feel honored to spend time with me. ( respond all you like fringe but when you value yourself others will too) 2. I don't give freely it must be earned. 3. Honesty 4. zero tolerance for bad behavior http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/256626-im-just-wondering This particular situation led to this formation of beliefs. When I posted this I was out of that situation but was attempted to be pulled back in. I'm not willing to change them because once I deviate from these beliefs my success goes down. I say they are neither wrong or right. I will admit sometimes I can be a cold blooded a*****e but that is what you get when you deal with someone whose animal that represents them is this http://static.ddmcdn.com/gif/willow/cobra-info0.gif The concept is OK. However, it is stated in a manner that suggests narcissism and insecurity.
irin Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 i wont ever let anyone change me and what i stand for. take as iam, if i naturally change and grow so be it. but i wont tolerate any manipulation, or someone forcing things down on me.
Author joystickd Posted June 9, 2012 Author Posted June 9, 2012 The concept is OK. However, it is stated in a manner that suggests narcissism and insecurity. Its far from narcissism and insecurity. It just took an extreme mindset to get me out of the deep rut I was in at that time.
mesmerized Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 A- Never give a guy who holds double standards and doesn't respect women a chance. B- Don't believe what a guy says but what he does. C- Always assume they're only looking for sex unless proven otherwise!
Author joystickd Posted June 10, 2012 Author Posted June 10, 2012 One core belief I have is give back as much as you want. If I want a woman in shape with a sociable personality, I should have that to give to her as well. Very Cool!!!
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