MoneyMatt Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 Basically, I've been in a relationship with this girl for 5 years; most of high school and after. We broke up 2 months ago, and I made the mistake most people make. - I begged & cried multiple times for her in front of her - I showed up at her house without a invite - I ignored her decision in taking a break and being single because I was scared she would find someone else - She tells me she loves me but doesn't want to be in a relationship right now - I ask her "just say you don't want to be with me" and she says "I can't tell the future" - I cheated on her once and she has cheated on me (Not healthy but it is what it is) We both agreed to not talk to each other until July 3rd; it's the day after she's done with summer classes so she will have time to talk. I was just wondering all the mistakes I've made in the last 2 months (crying for her,begging,writing letters) officially ended my chances? or will no contact from now until July maybe help? I haven't spoken to her for about 3 days, and I can honestly say I'm not too sad anymore because I know deep down she truly loves me, I mean we been together for 5 years but not the person I've become (the beggar,cry type) All in All, is their still a slight chance a month from now, she can remember the person she fell in love then the person I've become the last 2 months?
BDranger Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 I really do hate to tell ya, but the best thing you can do is just move on. I think everyone on this board has been in the exact same, or very similar, spot you're in right now.... let her go. She let go because of already existing reasons - what you're doing is proving her right at this point. Why do you want someone who doesn't want you? Logically speaking. Answer this question. She left - she needs to come back all on her own 2 legs....preferably on broken glass, just to prove the level of commitment.
Author MoneyMatt Posted June 9, 2012 Author Posted June 9, 2012 I honestly believe your right, I believe I proved what she questioned. I'm taking this month break from her to be more dependent and work on myself. I'm not sure how we will both feel when that time comes to talk but I've come to believe if it's meant to be then its meant to be. Time will tell
greenz Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 I think you have a chance, but not with any more crying or begging. If she says she loves you and says she can't tell the future, she's basically saying "prove it to me." Become more independent, get stronger. If she sees a happier and more casual you instead of the mess you've become, she will get interested again, but it will take a little time. You kind of have to let her take control right now and do things her way. And when you're not talking, keep working on yourself. It all depends on what you want to do. If you really want her back, you have to win her back and then sustain it.
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