Analog Man Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 That's what I am. I am already 21 years of age, still a virgin, and I still can't get a girlfriend. Every time I talk to a girl (the ones I find interesting) I have to find out they are already taken. Or are they just making that up to play with my feelings (if so, then they're just as miserable as I am if they can't find anyone)? I have been told constantly in the past by "experts" on the dating fields to lower my standards (which I will not mention here as they might offend certain groups on this site). But I refuse to. And why is that? Because if I lower my standards, I am only going to invite women of lesser quality who may likely not last that long in a relationship with me. As for how I look like, I simply refuse to put up a photo. I don't consider myself physically unattractive at all (sometimes I feel like I am "ugly" but that is just my emotions playing with my head), but if I could give anyone a good "picture" of how I look like: I look like I could have played bass for Metallica back in 1989. I have long, curly/wavy dark hair (many women have complimented me on it). I have light brown eyes. I am 6 feet tall. I weigh 210 lbs. I am naturally tan-skinned. Et cetera. I pretty much look like that "hot rocker dude from the '80s you wanted to give a blowjob to but could never get closer to him." What hope is there for me? I have tried online dating dozens of times -- often putting myself in the front by trying to start friendships with women online on sites like OkCupid -- only to end up getting moronic replies and the cold shoulder. And this is even when I put up a photo of myself on there. I just don't fit with the dumbasses in my town. I consider many of them followers of trends, instead of thinking for themselves and having the guts to call bull**** on things they don't agree with or don't like.
udolipixie Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 Seems you're a loser in love due to wanting what doesn't want you having what others perceive as high expectations and standards. Are you willing to describe facial features and body shape or post a picture of someone similar to looks as you? For me facial features and body shape do more for relaying an image of how someone looks as three gals can have the same height, weight, eye color, and skin color yet look vastly different. Likely there's hope for you if you get the qualities that the gals you want find attractive. Do you think you have any insights on what is attractive to the types of gals you want? Bit curious as to how it's playing with your feelings to use I have a boyfriend line when rejecting a guy.
Philosoraptor Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 Ok, so you've not found someone yet.... who cares? Never lower your standards as that will never make you happy. Sure you might find companionship but I'd rather be alone than with someone who I wasn't happy with. The more you obsess over this the more desperate you are going to look. Just continue to be patient and let life happen. What exactly are you looking for out of a partner? Figure that out and you'll be able to pinpoint where to look.
amantis Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 (edited) What are you guys talking about ? why cant he lower his standards ? Look , you need to have sex , thats your problem . Why do you have high standards ? you are only 21 , are you looking for someone to marry ? have kids ? just find someone , have fun , have lots of sex , and later when you think that you want to settle down , go for someone who you really like . You are a loser because you think like a loser :S Edited June 9, 2012 by amantis
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