MsRiskyBusiness Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 (edited) He is everything amazing any woman would love to have in a fulfilling friendship, but when it comes right down to commitment, trust me when I say dark chocolate will give you a bigger euphoric buzz instead. I have been dating this phenomenal man for 11 months. He's a dedicated hard worker who owns his own business and enjoys being with family & friends whenever he can. That is all fine & dandy, but when does 'us' come into the picture? When does sex in the back seat, the store, on the floor or anywhere else besides the matrimonial bed come into the picture? When does "wanting"to be with your lover come before spending yet another night at work or with your buddies? To be honest, I've had enough. I feel like the song, "I want you - To want me". I am not a needy person by any means. The opposite is true. I look after my own basic needs. I feel when you finally do find the one, they will help compliment you rather than complete you. Why do I feel I am completing him? Why do I feel I need him to complete me now? I am losing my sex-appeal and confidence while staying in this relationship. I need out. I need to breathe. I need to know I've still got-it. I know I do, but to be reaffirmed of this once in a blue moon would be nice (think of the 5 love languages here). I say this because on more than one occasion he has turned me down due to feeling tired or worn out. I'm tied of hearing that. I turn down men &/or refrain from acknowledging them noticing me. It breaks me to do this as my need for feeling sexy is being lost. I have already tried talking with him. Bottom line, I just don't want to hurt this great guy. Any advice? Edited June 9, 2012 by MsRiskyBusiness
YellowShark Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 He may be a "great guy," but perhaps he is just a lousy boyfriend. Sounds like he lacks that romantic, lusty, naughty streak you require in a partner. You know, the one where he makes you "feel like a woman" physically and mentally. You've tried to talk with him but nothing came of it. So from what you wrote everything is there, except that part.
BDranger Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 "Hey X, I tried to talk to you and tell you my issues with our relationship to no avail. I know you're busy with your job and friends but I need more attention. I haven't felt good about our situation for awhile and I don't want to end things on bad terms. You have something good going for you and I feel I just don't fit into this. Maybe down the road we can be friends but at the moment I can't continue this." Something like that. Just be patient, and go easy with whatever decision he makes. Good luck!
EgoJoe Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 So, he is a good friend and provider but not so much a romantic partner. Ok. Have you actually said anything to him? Your post leads me to believe you have not. Try saying something without attacking...if you can.
wilsonx Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Nothing wrong with the current boyfriend at all. GIGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS a mile away. This is the dumper's perspective of what they want, how they feel, etc. Chasing sex and drama and mistaking it for love. This train has left the station and nothing is going to stop it except for the brick wall at the end of the tunnel 1
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