c0nfused88 Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 I'm curious for those of you who have had an ex on the backburner before. I.e. you are the one who broke up and you're now seeing others... but you still hangout with your ex and know they want you back..? If you have done this, why have you done it? Do you still have some hope to be with your ex again or are you just afraid to let go? Have you ever decided that you did want them back after all-- then get back and have things go well/better than they were?
Philosoraptor Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 Um personally I think it's a dick move to let someone hold on to fall back to just in case your other plans don't work out. The thing is if you've decided that you're unhappy enough with your partner to leave the relationship you already know that this person does not fulfill your needs. Better to just let them go completely so they can find someone who wants to be with them. 1
Sid6.7 Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 Because some people think they can never do any better than their past decay. After all, that is what it is. Emotional and physical decay. Yet, they want to hold on to that festering waste for some reason hoping it will never turn into a propellant for someone else. Some just like filling their ego with an understudy I suppose. I myself never hit the rewind button in life.
SerCay Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Hi Confused, From the ex side I can say it sucks! (in a similar situation atm, decided NC now) You leave the person who's in love with you confused because it's mixed signals to them. Nothing worse than being in a doubtful state as you can't move on nor go back to the relationship as your ex doesn't want to. 1
phineas Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 The guys I know who have done it do it so they can have an easy booty call. The women who do it do it so they still have a guy to do things for her & pay attention to her. Or if the sex was good for an easy booty call. I've had women go ape-sheet when they ended it & I immediately moved on & started going out with other women. We'd only been official long enough for them to think their sure they had me hooked then pull the "we can still be friends" LOL! uh no thank you.
Leopard Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 I have had this happen. We both had an amicable break up and agreed to be just friends. We were both seeing other people at the time. But he kept wanting to get back together and I didn't. So we agreed to stop all contact. It was hard for me because I lost a good friend, but it would have been unfair for him if I stuck around. He called me every now and then before, but when he realized I really wasn't coming back, the calls stopped. I have always tried to remain friends with my exes because, well, we dated for a reason. Each and every one of them was a great person, but they always wanted to get back together and I never did. It kind of sucks. I really envy people who can remain friends with their exes and not have problems. I wish I could do that, but it never pans out
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