Charny Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 Ok, so didn't know really where to turn to. This is going to be a bit of a long one so I'll dive right in. I met my Girlfriend through my than best friend who was dating her at the time. They had been together for a few months before I met her. Immediatly there was a real spark and we became great friends. My best friend at the time was and probably still is not the most faithfull of people, but he was true to her and for the first two years never cheated. Mine the girls friendship continued to blossom and I always was Jealous of my best friend. As time went on I started working with my best friend and soon learnt that he was cheating on the girl of my dreams. As painfull as it was, I never said a word due to some duty bound honour of not betraying my best friend. So lets skip ahead, eventually she finds out, dumps him and moves back to her dads... I comfort her than enter a year of no contact. Once again due to being duty bound... During this whole time, I could never hold down a relationship, 3 months was the best I could do. Its a year later, we started talking again, she now had another boyfriend, they had been together for a month and I showed up on valentines, with roses and a box of chocolates, confessed my feelings and we hugged and kissed all night, despite her somewhat trying to resist my advances. Than next day she didn't speak to me for a few months. We happened to bump into each other at a nightclub, she was with yet another new bloke. She broke up with the previous due to the guilt... I had a fleeting conversation with her than moved on back to my crowd of friends. Skip ahead a little more, I noticed she was out of work, I work as a manager of a bar so offered her some work. She took it and well once again we reconnected. She was still with the current boyfriend but once again I confessed my feelings and well this time we properly hooked up, albiet it took a couple of months before she got the courage to break up with that guy. We are now at year two of officially being together... but I feel now that I have been used at times. Maybe its because the amount of time I invested into this woman. I feel as though we don't partake in the same hobbies anymore, I feel I'm taking all the finacial strain ( we moved in together after 3 months). Also we don't get to spend time together. For instance, a couple of weeks ago she went away for a week for a Gig (Had no contact with me either, not even a I miss you text) and she didn't want me to go because she doesn't like me when I drink. I'll admit when I drink I can get very soppy and or Jealous but I feel like she has written me off completely at times. I have no idea what to do... I'm not the best at discussing my feelings... I'll admit at times I wish I could end it, but its not that often. But even If I was too. We live & work together. But its not like its thats whats stopping me from ending it. I could easily find another job / place to live, infact I have plenty of offers. I know I want to make this relationship work, and we have had some great times over the years. Eugh Any thoughts?
Author Charny Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 Thanks for that. Trick question, at least to me it was. Both of those statements are true here. So we've spoken about it, I've brought it all into light and we have both decided a step back is best. We are both moving out and going to take things slowly. Already I feel like our relationship is improving, and thats only after a couple of days. Hopefully it keeps going this way!
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