LanaDelRey Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Theres this guy that I dated for a year and he was the one who screwed me over 9 months ago. I can't tell what his problem is. I was trying to get a hold of him to make things clear and not have this weird relationship between us like we do now. Maybe not be friends but friendly around one another. I obviously still care a lot for him and its been hard to let go fully but his reaction towards me came out of no where. Here's what happened: He goes out and talks to my friends and gives them this whole bs story about why we ended things. Of course his story makes him look good and forgets the part where he screwed me over. About 9m ago after I found out what he was doing behind my back I left and changed my number. I never told him either. I never cussed him out or did anything to retaliate. I just left. Never looked back till a few weeks ago he talked to my friends. I decided I was going to try to talk to him myself. So I started searching for him because after I changed my # he changed his (funny). So anyways I asked his cousin and his best friend 4 his number. I eneded up giving them my number 2 have him call me and that same night my ex did. At first he was acting real confused about why I was talking 2 people to try to find him and so I told him that I wanted 2 clear things about what he said 2 my friends. He kept trying to dodge that statement and started acting confused on why I hit up his friends. I told him 3 times the same thing. Finally he let that 1 go and I asked if I could meet up with him to talk. He then goes on to say he has no time unless I told him what I needed. So for the fourth time I told him I wanted to talk. He then went on to say he has no time ever. The thing is whenever I brought up what he told my friends he would try 2 change the subject or act confused. He then goes on 2 tell me im assuming things and I said thats the reason I am calling you is so you can say this 2 me not my friends. I asked him y he coud have a heart 2 heart with my friends but then close up on me. I started to bring up how he screwed me over last summer and once again the confusion started. No direct answer. He then went on 2 tell me that he doesnt want 2 bring up the past and that he's not talking to me about it... ever. That I should have talked 2 him about this when it happened and its 2 late. It happened 9 months ago... he kept saying a year and a half ago (which again I didn't understand). Which is funny because before I left him last year I tried talking to him then too. Again, he starts talking in circles acting confused. He wouldn't deny anything or tell me to F off but he just completley closed up on me. I tried to be nice at first but his whole confusion act really started to piss me off. I dont understand his behavior. I don't understand why he didn't yell at my friends the way he did me. He never answered anything really and he wasn't being blunt on anything like telling me to F off or leave him alone just blunt on he is not talkig to me about the past and I missed my time slot to talk about it " a year and a half ago" when really it was not even 9 months ago. BUT hes acting like im the one who screwed him over. Like really it feels like hes mad at me. Because I left him or??? I dont know. When I told him he screwed me over he didnt deny it but he didnt admit he would just keep saying he doesnt want to bring up his past. I just dont understand any of it.. especially why he dodged pratically all my questions or acted confused even when I kept repeating myself. Then being like I have no time to talk or im not going to call you back about this because I don't want to talk about it. Yet he was able to talk to my friends about some bs story but not me...????? Im the one who was in the relationship with him. Can anyone help me here with what hes doing? Or explain his behavior. I dont need the whole "you can do better" talk. But after that convo I sat there kind of stumped. Like WTF??? I thought he cared about me a little more then that. It hurts so badly. I feel like I messed up but I know I didn't. I felt by know we would have been able to be nice to one another being that this happened 9 months ago but instead he was just plain mean and rude.
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