Thierro Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/329365-she-contacted-me-again We are going for a drink.. I decided: What the hell, let's just do it."When in doubt, do what makes the best story" I am going to make YOU part of this en let you enjoy the ride.. Maybe you will learn something valuable out of it. Worst case scenario: Man tears… man tears everywhere.. (Only when hell freezes over I guess) Best case scenario: We are going to have a good time and end it on a good note. Right at this moment I don’t really care. I feel like I am genuinely over her. I had a great time with the girl I was talking about in my previous post and I think we make a great team together. This is kind of like my own little challenge I need to beat, need to experience. To be continued… 1
mr-lonely Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 i would be careful going on a date with your ex, you say you feel over her untill u meet up and then things may get complicated, you might feel you want her back but then you think of so many questiosn, thats not a great start if you do go, i hope you get what you are after and keep u supto date
jquest1280 Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I had the strangest feeling when I saw my ex after thinking I was over him. Inside, I wanted him back. Outside, I wouldn't have touched him even if left alone in the room with him. When the evening ended without anything significant happening (it was a group party, not a date) I just had to send him a text ('good night, nice seeing you' or something like that) before I could let him go again and go back to thinking I was over him. That's why they say it is an "addiction". I want to hear how your date turns out, Thierro!
Razzle Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Just don't she broke up with you end of, it will end in you feeling bad again. As they say getting back with your ex is just like buying all you unwanted junk back at a yard sale.
esteem-jam Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 Tell her to bring the money. I hope youre not paying for drinks, meal? Let her pay. And order some delicios, lots of expensive stuff. Then, as planned, enjoy your drinks (delicious and expensive ;p ) I think there is no other way.
Author Thierro Posted June 9, 2012 Author Posted June 9, 2012 Tell her to bring the money. I hope youre not paying for drinks, meal? Let her pay. And order some delicios, lots of expensive stuff. Then, as planned, enjoy your drinks (delicious and expensive ;p ) I think there is no other way. That does make the better story. Taking her to an expensive restaurant and right after I am stuffed, I flip her the bird and tell her to go f*ck herself and walk away.. There are no angry feelings towards her though, so my follow-up won't be as thrilling and dramatic. I don't associate with movements, I think for myself. I don't care what's "wrong" or "right". There's no exact science to it. In the end, it doesn't matter what happens. I'll grow from it.
esteem-jam Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 and tell her to go f*ck herself and walk away.. No, I did not mean it that way. It would be just little compensation for the pain shes caused you. I very can imagine doing this myself... if I had the opportunity. If she asks "pay the bills, hehe, why?" or if she doesnt say anything but makes an uncomfortable face mimic- break the silence and tell her "so that you know, you took a lot from me, now I am taking a little back, I think its fair". No cursing, no throwing things, no drama. But anyway, Ill popcorn back into this thread
Frank13 Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 (edited) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/329365-she-contacted-me-again We are going for a drink.. I decided: What the hell, let's just do it."When in doubt, do what makes the best story" I am going to make YOU part of this en let you enjoy the ride.. Maybe you will learn something valuable out of it. Worst case scenario: Man tears… man tears everywhere.. (Only when hell freezes over I guess) Best case scenario: We are going to have a good time and end it on a good note. To be continued… I like your subject line and applaude you for at least knowing that it could turn out bad but going for it anyway and keeping us in on it. I am curious how this goes as I saw in your other post that she contacted you after a year of NC and it hurt like hell and was horrible. Now 10 months later I want to see how you feel when you see her. Popcorn is popping. Edited June 9, 2012 by Frank13
Sugarkane Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 Hi I'm curious to know what will happen. I'd probably have an escape plan just in case! I'd be too tempted to reject the rejector- but mist of my exes are complete jerks though. 1
goldengirl11 Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 As they say getting back with your ex is just like buying all you unwanted junk back at a yard sale. That's a great way of putting it!!
Author Thierro Posted June 9, 2012 Author Posted June 9, 2012 And the plot thickens... She replied, but not with a set date: "Maybe it's better to keep talking here for a while. After all, it's been a long time since we have seen each other."
Author Thierro Posted June 9, 2012 Author Posted June 9, 2012 (edited) I wrote back: "Hey, It's fine with me to catch up with you and talk, but that's all there is to it" 10 minutes later: "Fine. It ends right here. I'm nOt going to contact you anymore. I tried my best, but it's claer how we stand. Bye" Well, that escalated quickly.. How's the popcorn?.. Not sure why she is mad. Did you notice the misspelled words? Edited June 9, 2012 by Thierro
broken-and-lost Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 I'm guessing she was testing the water and when you said that's all it would be she has bailed as she knows your not interested 1
MissBee Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 If you were genuinely over her, you going out for a drink would hardly be anything to bat an eyelash over. You most likely wouldn't post a thread about it (do you post threads everytime you are going out for NSA, no expectations drinks with normal people? ). You'd go and carry on with life and not even feel the need to discuss it or the potential of man tears, there would be no plot to thicken....I'm just saying, it wouldn't be that serious or interesting to you at all. Been there, done that, tried to prematurely say I was "over my ex" while ironically talking about him and still analyzing him. You get over it when you get over it...but what is sure, is that you usually don't realize you're over it until one day you realize you are no longer talking about them, making threads about mundane activities you will do with them, typing out every exchange you have and reading into it etc. They are just another person....
Author Thierro Posted June 9, 2012 Author Posted June 9, 2012 If you were genuinely over her, you going out for a drink would hardly be anything to bat an eyelash over. You most likely wouldn't post a thread about it (do you post threads everytime you are going out for NSA, no expectations drinks with normal people? ). You'd go and carry on with life and not even feel the need to discuss it or the potential of man tears, there would be no plot to thicken....I'm just saying, it wouldn't be that serious or interesting to you at all. Been there, done that, tried to prematurely say I was "over my ex" while ironically talking about him and still analyzing him. You get over it when you get over it...but what is sure, is that you usually don't realize you're over it until one day you realize you are no longer talking about them, making threads about mundane activities you will do with them, typing out every exchange you have and reading into it etc. They are just another person.... You are totally right. It's just that I don't actually feel hurt or anything. Sure, somewhere deep inside of me there is some small hope that the two of us will get back together, but it's obviously not happening.
Frank13 Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Wow. My first thought is thst she was fishing for an ego stroke and when she got it, she no longer felt the need to meet up with you. The second reply where it escalated, I am not sure about. Either she git her ego stroke and used her reply as a way to get out of meeting up. Or you gave a blow to her ego by your reply and she is testing you with her reply to see if she can pull your chain. I am kind of thinking the second one is true. If I was truely done with her, I might be tempted to reply with "go eff yourself". However, if I was over her and wanted to have some fun I would probably reply with a non-chalant repky such as "okay, whatever you say". Keep us posted.
Author Thierro Posted June 10, 2012 Author Posted June 10, 2012 I am not bothered to read between the lines. I don’t want to strategize over this. I don’t care who wins or loses. I am tired of this girl. She is very special to me, but she disrespects me when she keeps contacting me or acting this way. I told her the truth, even though that truth pushes her even further away. I don’t want to pretend that I am strong. I will never forget her, I will always care for her in my own special way. That’s my truth and I am not going to pretend otherwise. I don’t feel hurt, I feel a bit disappointed in her behavior and that the little hope that I had was naïve and irrational. My skepticism prevented unnecessary pain. Time to genuinely move on.. The popcorn is on me!
broken-and-lost Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Get yourself a MILF i hear they know how to treat a man, i'll eat your popcorn in the meantime
Author Thierro Posted June 10, 2012 Author Posted June 10, 2012 Get yourself a MILF i hear they know how to treat a man, i'll eat your popcorn in the meantime Sounds good. I usually date girls that are a couple of years younger than me. That's my problem: I date girls. I need to date women. Enjoy your popcorn and I will enjoy your company.
broken-and-lost Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 same problem here m8 i always date girls younger then me then wonder why it goes so wrong.
Exit Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 Heh, sorry to hear it blew up in your face although my initial reaction was that you wasted everyone's effort who replied to your last thread, including me, about when she contacted you for your bday. I'll agree with others that it seems she reached out for some satisfaction, saw you were interested in meeting up, and then back pedaled and second guessed her decision. You have more power than you realize in this situation, an ex who contacted you on your birthday, considered hanging out with you, you're ruining it by being too nice. You should have been the one to say "thanks but hanging out doesn't sound like a great idea". Go NC now and you'll maintain the dignity that you have left. You're right, you need to stop dealing with immature girls and wait to find a woman who doesn't play these games.
Author Thierro Posted June 11, 2012 Author Posted June 11, 2012 If I would have followed the rules, I'd probably waste my time on thinking why she contacted me for the second time. Now I finally have some piece of mind knowing that it's over. Sure, I lost all my dignity by doing it my way. I already let her broke me twice before, but I had enough of this. I don't need her approval, I don't want to end it by playing games or staying strong. She can have her thoughts, I just want to be free. I don't want to hope for something that will never be. I don't want to do the right thing and earn all the power. She just needs to get the hell out of my life without bothering me with her little breadcrumbs. I expected more from her. I am disappointed in her. But this is the last time I opened my heart to her, the last time I let her disrespect me as a man. I'm going to move on. I will never forget the great time we shared, but I will also never forget how much I let her hurt me.
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