picaso28 Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 I have being emailing a girl at work i just met - ( just general joke / work banter.) Anyway a few weekends ago she text me out of the blue while she was out ( drunk ). Totally random. I text her back the next day and made a a joke of it. Anyway the next day in work she offered me a lift somewhere and while we were in the car she told me how her ex emailed her and that she also ended up crying because she gets jealous when her male friend flirts with other girls. I was thinking of asking her for a drink but don't want to misread anything as we work together and don't really know each other. Thoughts???
Lil1 Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Anyway the next day in work she offered me a lift somewhere and while we were in the car she told me how her ex emailed her and that she also ended up crying because she gets jealous when her male friend flirts with other girls. Thoughts??? She is not interested, and if she is giving you mixed signals then she is just looking for attetion. Just look at the red flags: She is talking to you about her ex (out of nowhere it seems) and she cried to you because she was jealous of her guy friend?! Seriously, who does this? She is basically telling you that she is an attention seeker right ther. The guy is her friend, yet she is jealous of the attention he gets from other girls?.. She sounds like a nut.
no_radar Posted June 8, 2012 Posted June 8, 2012 Hey, you commented on my post earlier about a girl i met from work, so thanks. In regards to your situation i think you have to be careful with people you work with and go through the 'courting' process. Don't seem too keen, take things a lil slower and try to pick up on things she mentions, such as likes and interests, girls love it when you remember things like that. Then ask her off the cuff and casually one day if she would like to do something that youve picked up on she likes....if you get what i mean lol. I think your going to fast and havent had the chance to suss her out yet. Be that mysterious but charismatic man that to begin with she only sees at work, that way she will be intrigued to find out more. good luck.
Author picaso28 Posted June 8, 2012 Author Posted June 8, 2012 Thanks for replies guys......yeah I sort of thought I was misreading the situation .....I mean talking about ex is a sign were just mates. Just the random txt through me a bit as it was totally out the blue late at nite but she was drunk....guess I read to much into it. Also agree about getting to know her as we work together ....don't want to look s tool by asking her out. Oh and funny thing is she aint even my type!
spiderowl Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 She's still thinking of her ex and still mentally bound up with him. She's probably looking for a friend and thought you seemed nice. That's not to say she might never be interested in you, but be aware that she may well spend time with you and enjoy the attention/warmth but still be elsewhere. If you decide to see more of her, try not to get attached.
ladyabstrused Posted June 9, 2012 Posted June 9, 2012 She is not interested, and if she is giving you mixed signals then she is just looking for attetion. Yeah, I gotta agree with Lil1 here...she seems to be not interested in you, but in your attention towards her. Or she probably sees you as a friend who cares, so she'd tell you those things about her ex etc.
Author picaso28 Posted June 11, 2012 Author Posted June 11, 2012 thanks for all the posts people. Does actually help to get a 'third person' view point. Plus if i asked my mates this stuff i'd never live it down! lol Yeah any way took advice and sort of kept my distance as much as i can but remaining friendly. I guess if she is interested she has to work for it....ha ha plenty more fish and all that!
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